Oh, I realize that in this context, you meant it as an off the cuff remark, but in several other threads you've said something to the same effect. I think the last time, you put the nail video up and said people were just complaining about each others' nails, so I assume on some level it bothers you to let them have it out (maybe seems inefficient if you feel you have a shortcut to the conclusions they'll eventually make?? Just stabbing in the dark). I'm not sure why and I've ruled out most of the reasons I can think of as being implausible. I needed more context to make sense of it, because I assume I am misinterpreting it somehow and I'd rather not. Or maybe a comment is just a comment and I'm only projecting, because if an INFJ said it, it would be a less frontal way of telling people that they are causing problems and need to quit because it's starting to infringe on other people.
Yeah- especially with one liners, I think our interpretation of things is largely informed by past experience of a person, more than others begin to understand. The bad thing about being INFJ is that when something reaches the boiling point, we can't look away for a couple minutes and expect the pot to have returned to room temperature on its own. But it seems like that's what most people expect- like it's unreasonable to hold what they were acting like 10 minutes ago ‘against’ them. [And I mean "10 minutes ago" rhetorically, it can translate into up to "10 years ago" literally.....if the initial impression was big enough, that mental sticky note will last a *long* time.]
If someone repeatedly displays annoyance at what I'm trying to work through aloud (and 'repeatedly' is usually what brings something to a 'boiling point')- it basically makes me feel like they're suggesting I'm imposing something unreasonable on others by trying to work through it aloud**....and my initial reaction is to make a mental sticky note about how that person is sensitive to hearing such things (and to avoid such things being done aloud around that person henceforth). On the plus side, it helps me annoy that person less; if I see they are in the room then I know to avoid bringing certain things up (though that is less practical in forum interaction, because it's hard to see who is 'in the room' per se). On the down side, that person's one line jokes about intervening will almost certainly be informed by this previous expression (unless new information comes along which renders the previous mental sticky note about it moot).
So yeah- I had the same reaction. But then uumlau’s response to the above quote was a good example of new information which comes along to render the mental sticky note moot (it worked towards effectively undoing the ‘shaming’ element of his posts from previous experiences).
**eta: Perhaps an interesting aside to note here is that we (at least, 'I') don't take it personally- where NFPs seem to 'hear' some kind of 'there's something wrong with you' subtext- I simply hear 'this bothers me, please don't do it around me'. I make a mental sticky note about not doing <whatever behavior> around that person, but I don't hear any sort of judgment about
me in this sort of 'shaming'. To me, it's more like I see
that person as saying "I can't handle this, please don't do it around me."
It's just that sometimes shit ain't funny.
This is a good a place as any to mention that I’ve started reading all Tilty’s posts as if they’re being delivered by Sawyer (
from LOST). Apparently, as far as my unconscious is concerned, there isn’t a female actress smart-ass enough to fill the role.
It is pretty much the reason I fight to the death. Just an attack on me doesn't usually motivate a death match from me, because I often feel stronger than the person attacking me personally, but when it involves more people, or if it is someone who has made themselves vulnerable or who is vulnerable, then I can go on the attack. If I see someone hurting an animal, I can feel a crazy rage that wants to put a stop to it regardless of what it takes. When I see someone be a bully - especially if it is a glib, "na, na, na, na, na attitude, I want to grab a sledgehammer and take them out at the knees. Who says INFJs don't have a sense of humor? How is that not hilarious?
+1,000
It's all fun and games until the INFJ joins in on the fun- and then people start recoiling in horror at the bloodshed, saying we're the ones without a sense of humor.