I never thought of that. I guess that makes sense. Because I do get energized by other people but I have a hard time opening up (honestly doesn't happen unless I'm drinking) and I have a difficult time speaking loudly. Guess I'm an ENFP then?
If this helps - I'm always trying to be like someone else and I can adjust my personality to any type (I just "sense" their style and act like them naturally to minimize conflicts) - is this an ENFP or INFP thing?
Could be either. Sounds like an NF thing, or even an F thing in general, because all Fs consider the impact of their actions on other people (in contrast to Ts, who are more concerned with efficiency and results). NFs are known as chameleons, but simply wanting to "minimize conflicts" is definitely a quality of feeling and therefore applicable to all Fs naturally. Keep in mind, though, that we all have feeling and thinking in our top four functions, so the lines can blur a little, especially as people age. Ts can have well-developed F, and Fs can have well-developed T, so it's not uncommon to find balanced individuals who consider the impact of their actions on other people
and consider efficiency and results at the same time.
I was going to inquire along the same lines as Heart. If you feel energized by people yet nervous around them, it might be a confidence issue. Introverts can be very confident and purposeful in social situations, and extroverts can be very unsure, but the stereotype is that extroverts feel at complete ease in social situations while introverts have no clue what to do. I know an ENFJ who has social anxiety disorder and tends to drink beer to loosen up at parties; she's also afraid of public speaking and voicing her opinions in class.
You seem like an extroverted feeler to me, very possibly ENFP. Welcome, by the way! Enjoy the forum.