Adasta
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I constantly do this.
On some occasions I feel the fluttering of a feeling; then, I immediately question it. It's as if I feel something, identify that I have felt something, and then begin to question exactly what that is. This is extremely frustrating because it means I cannot simply "know", I am always obliged to indulge myself in exhaustive analysis.
An example might be feeling a bit jealous. Then, I would question myself: "Are you feeling jealous?" Then, "Why are you feeling jealous? What could your jealousy mean?" Cue an intensive "interior combing" of myself, my attitudes, what it all could mean. Invariably, I find something "bad" within myself, or merely that the feeling itself pertains to something bad.
Even worse, I start to feel bad because the feeling may, at some unspecified point in the future, make me act or feel as if I am behaving less than ideally. This could be some odd line of thinking, such as "If I am in the company of someone attractive, that might incline me towards being attracted to them, which may lead to some sort of affair, which would make me feel awful and would mean I was dishonest."
Is there any way to counteract this feeling. It's silly and I've been told as much by many of my friends. They are quite right, but I find it difficult to evade this odd sense of guilt, at times.
This may be a 4w5 thing...
On some occasions I feel the fluttering of a feeling; then, I immediately question it. It's as if I feel something, identify that I have felt something, and then begin to question exactly what that is. This is extremely frustrating because it means I cannot simply "know", I am always obliged to indulge myself in exhaustive analysis.
An example might be feeling a bit jealous. Then, I would question myself: "Are you feeling jealous?" Then, "Why are you feeling jealous? What could your jealousy mean?" Cue an intensive "interior combing" of myself, my attitudes, what it all could mean. Invariably, I find something "bad" within myself, or merely that the feeling itself pertains to something bad.
Even worse, I start to feel bad because the feeling may, at some unspecified point in the future, make me act or feel as if I am behaving less than ideally. This could be some odd line of thinking, such as "If I am in the company of someone attractive, that might incline me towards being attracted to them, which may lead to some sort of affair, which would make me feel awful and would mean I was dishonest."
Is there any way to counteract this feeling. It's silly and I've been told as much by many of my friends. They are quite right, but I find it difficult to evade this odd sense of guilt, at times.
This may be a 4w5 thing...