Original Post:
"I still feel awkward about this, but ever since I realized that most girls that stare at me are ISFPs I haven't been the same. I can charm the hell out of these girls until they're left sprawling on the floor in a puddle of their melted smiles.
I have my own understanding of the attraction between the male INFP and the female ISFP, but at the same time, I would appreciate other opinions on the matter.
This thread exists only because I don't completely understand the reason for their attraction and that bugs the hell out of me. I guess it's the fact that a lot of it has its roots in how I look, which (again) is weird because it's hard for me not to look past surface features. A commodity is sort of what I feel like. The control is not what I'm used to and I'm afraid of hurting feelings."
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As in INFP girl who has recently realized that an ISFP male aquantance really really likes me, I appreciate and can identify with your comment "The control is [what] I'm [not] used to and I'm afraid of hurting feelings."
I've only recently immerged out of a life-long wallflower mentality, and am dealing (in this situation) with the double-whammy of being (1) newly aware that I am attractive and (2) newly aware that if I decide to go for this man I can see (with classic NF vision) exactly the path to charming him and driving him crazy.
However, since I don't believe in leading people on, I don't quite know what to do with this "control," as you put it.
You were also specifially mentioning a male INFP with female ISFP, so I suppose a female INFP with male ISFP could be a different story.......
I suppose to be fair I should also mention that I'm not immune to his charm either and he probably knows it.