I'd really like to hear some experiences of INFP fathers, whether you are one, or know one.
Examples...
When your child is in a rut with another child, and let's say that the other child's father is an ESTx. Deeply caring for your children, you know that you'd be there to listen to them, spend much time with them, etc. But what if other fathers who are of the ESTx types get really aggressive or hard-charging because that's their way of defending their kids -- do you feel inferior in parenting in this way? Like you don't have the ability to stand up for your kids in front of an ESTx society while the ESTx world is in-your-face against you? Do you just walk away and ignore, and inside you secretly feel like you're not a good enough parent in the sense that you can't defend them "as much"?
There probably won't be much INFP fathers on here, so experiences and perceptions of others can apply too (e.g. if you're the son/daughter/wife of one, a friend of one, etc.)
My dad is an INFP and one of the main reasons he left me when I was young was because of this. Of course he never actually said this directly to me, but I know this is one of the main reasons why. Being it difficult to even stand up for himself, I know he couldn't bear to deal with having/seeing his child in this state as well (not being able to stand up for me).
Do you sometimes wish that you weren't an INFP father because of your sensitivity that gets in the way of this? For the INFP males that don't have kids, does this "problem" affect your decision or desire for having kids in the future? Or for the non-INFPs whose had experiences with them, do you sense or think that they feel "afraid" of being a father for similar reasons and situations because of this?
Examples...
When your child is in a rut with another child, and let's say that the other child's father is an ESTx. Deeply caring for your children, you know that you'd be there to listen to them, spend much time with them, etc. But what if other fathers who are of the ESTx types get really aggressive or hard-charging because that's their way of defending their kids -- do you feel inferior in parenting in this way? Like you don't have the ability to stand up for your kids in front of an ESTx society while the ESTx world is in-your-face against you? Do you just walk away and ignore, and inside you secretly feel like you're not a good enough parent in the sense that you can't defend them "as much"?
There probably won't be much INFP fathers on here, so experiences and perceptions of others can apply too (e.g. if you're the son/daughter/wife of one, a friend of one, etc.)
My dad is an INFP and one of the main reasons he left me when I was young was because of this. Of course he never actually said this directly to me, but I know this is one of the main reasons why. Being it difficult to even stand up for himself, I know he couldn't bear to deal with having/seeing his child in this state as well (not being able to stand up for me).
Do you sometimes wish that you weren't an INFP father because of your sensitivity that gets in the way of this? For the INFP males that don't have kids, does this "problem" affect your decision or desire for having kids in the future? Or for the non-INFPs whose had experiences with them, do you sense or think that they feel "afraid" of being a father for similar reasons and situations because of this?