You wouldn't bore us, a forum full of counselors being bored of hearing someones problem sounds unlikely. In fact we may learn something important from it and learn to apply the lesson to this or other situations.
Of course if you don't want to tell us that's your decision and right, and we'll respect that, or I will anyways. I don't know about the woman formally known as the emotional cannibal.
okay.
i was a 1w9 as a kid. the 9 was all about dissociating because my mom (ESTJ, 6w5) was so unreasonable and verbally abusive, and my dad was just checked the fuck out (he never stepped in to defend me, even though he always agreed with my side of arguments). my dad's an INTP 5, btw.
i never felt confident about any of my opinions or ideas because i had no faith that anyone else would be accepting of them (the most important person in my life rejected all my ideas; i learned that my ideas didn't matter -- in fact, they would just anger her and make her more likely to blow up at me). i lived my life being scared to speak my mind, because there were negative consequences so often (operant conditioning).
this is also why i lived in my introverted functions and developed my Ti so much. Fe would fail me all day long. intellectualizing was a safe coping strategy for me -- i spent all my time Ni/Ti-ing.
anyways, when i was 16, this ENFJ girl from the grade above me noticed me and saw my potential. she was a 1w2. she was my opposite in the sense of being assertive and confident. she basically made a relationship happen. this was the beginning of my change.
basically, she trusted her gut -- she'd talk about people's motivations with absolute confidence that she was right. and i saw that she was...every time. any argument we got in, she would win -- she'd tell me exactly why i did what i did and she'd be right. (it wasn't exactly a healthy relationship).
i also saw the way she interacted with her parents. they treated her like an actual person. they listened to her opinions and put as much weight on them as they would anyone else. this is when i started to realize how much damage my childhood had done, and what my potential was.
i gradually became less frightened all the time; became trusting of my gut a bit more. i won my first argument against my mom by being assertive, and never lost again...ever.
anyways, i was on my way. then the girl died out of nowhere. i spend about 4 months completely withdrawn, then started coming back into reality with the outlook of someone much older and more mature (caterpillar/butterfly metaphor). in the course of the next year or two, i became much more of a 2. she had "saved" me; completely changed my life and made me realize my potential. (she took that role with everyone, since she saw everyone's potential).
since she was dead, i subconsciously took on her role -- i finally trusted my gut and my opinions. i saw people's potential. i saw their motivations. and i started trying to change them -- i didn't even notice what i was doing for a while, but i finally realized i was acting out her desires through myself as a way to keep her "alive". it became sort of an addiction -- i found a bunch of flawed friends and played the therapist role. then i met a girl who had an amazing amount of potential, and started a relationship with her. i played the opposite role in this relationship -- i showed her what she could be, etc.
so yeah, "helping" people has become a huge part of who i am. aka. i developed a strong 2 wing.
phew.