Okay, I'm reposting this from another forum, so be warned. This was a thread on "What pisses you off about INFJs?" This was meant to be a little cheeky, so I hope the INFJs don't take too much offense.
Okay, one of my best friends from college is an INFJ and work closely with an INFJ. I love them to death, but they do have a few teensy little flaws...
- They love giving unsolicited advice. They can be extremely, relentlessly nudgy. The fact that it's for your own good doesn't change this. As an INFP, I'm getting plenty of critique on what I should be doing internally, I don't need extra pressure from outside. k? thx!
- They apparently signed up for the alternative-medicine/belief-system buffet. One of them believes in reiki, homeopathy, colored light therapy, reincarnation, herbalism, etc. The other has been a fundamentalist Christian, a rainbow family hippie, a polyamory family member, a tarot card reader, etc. I wish I could believe in five impossible things before breakfast, but I'm just not so gifted. Believing a couple of impossible things in a lifetime seems like challenge enough for me.
- They can be hyper-aware of the emotions of others, but occasionally entirely oblivious to their own anger or resentment. One of my INFJ friends can be yelling arguing a point, and deny he is even slightly upset. Later he'll come back around and apologize for that. I realize this one may not be typical for a healthy INFJ, but as long as we are sharing irritations...
So there's my INFJ rant. I admit it's probably colored by my envy of their ability to more directly express themselves in the world, and their ability to throw themselves into the path their Ni leads them on.