how's your infp girlfriend working out entropie? you guys have any epic Ti vs. Fi battles yet?
ya haha, it's a bit like that: [youtube="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iGoC8FTLKSI"]
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We are together for 5 years now but the beginning was anything else but rosy. We had arguements and seperated quite a few times but it was always her seeking the contact to me again (I was more stubborn, didnt call or anything
). It's like a pendulum with two balls that needed to get in sync. Tho we are fundamentally different, even from different cultures, we have the thing in common that we both understand each other without ever having the need of asking. I sometimes misinterprete things she says and I generally have a more darker way of thinking but it was again learning by experience that I understand things better now she says.
I dunno, she can be very illogical and her sudden mood swings plus her very short attention span are sometimes a problem for me. It makes me dizzy, puzzles me or makes me feel bad. But she's a very empathic and respectful girl and she's quite eager to understand me, that's how it works at all. I like this openess in her very much and I like that she can adapt to me so easily, it's exactly the same thing I am doing for her.
I am a pretty control freak, I like it when things are predictable, she is more in the moment and feels her way thru the world, we make a pretty couple that way cause some times she can rely on me having put in the keys she has forgotten and sometimes I can rely on her being able to let my mind detach from the things that needs to be done and just enjoy the moment.
She has high morales, I am a businessmen in all things I do. We yesterday had this situation in our WoW guild, where everyone complained about the guild not paying anything to its members, tho it has so much gold on the bank. We both found that hilarious and made jokes of the people being so greedy. But then the guild master gave in and opened the bank for a moment. I made use of that opportunity and got me 1000 gold out of the bank. I found that funny, my girl not so. So my girl showed me that I was kinda opportunistic and that this is nothing she likes, she tho let the decision open to me to where to go from here and didnt influence me in any way. I put the money back into the guilds bank and everyone laughed at me, but I felt I have done the right thing. When my girl noticed, she again said nothing, but I felt better and I think I understand now what opportunism means.
Well you may not think an entp / infp relationship could work at all, but it actually works quite well. I can feel so safe with her and really let myself go, I can trust her and know that she's loyal. Maybe I am wrong and will land on my nose, but that's a risk I am willing to take. My girl's need for organization and her want for management of the daily life but total lack of ability to coordinate things in a realistic schedule, made me more and more entj over the time. I at least feel more and more entj, I still dont think I am one tho.
This a huge problem we still have, she cant really relax. When we had a week filled with work behind us in which we accomplished alot she still goes like a hurricane thru the household doing things that aint necessary right now. She would be better off if she for example would relax one day and then do the chores the other day or first do the chores and then relax the other day. But she needs to do chores both days and it's too much for me sometimes. She's making me nervous and I am feeling disharmony and stressed out by her disability to just relax sometimes.
We are both hurricanes and do accomplish a lot during the week, but I sometimes need these moments of peace of mind where I can just concentrate on one thing, while she is apt to quickly loose concentration. She is diagnosed ADS aswell, which isnt diagnosed very often in Germany, so it needs to be really obvious before you get that diagnosis. Nevertheless I can attenuate her and tho its only for an hour, it's at least a start. I have already changed her and I hope that in the next years I can get more peace and concentration in her, to make her feel better and more settled in her environment.
Sudden topic changes and loud music we tho both like
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_F0hN1nOBcw