Nadiar
New member
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- Dec 2, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
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- 5/6
So, a girl I know is an INFP, so her entire way of thinking about her emotions is a bit contrary to how I think about them. But I think I can at least grasp where she's coming from.
Basically her boyfriend for the past few years was kind of a dick, and would hang out with another woman. No one thinks anything was going on with those two, but it causes her a bit of extra pain that he spends more time with the other woman than he does with her, and he's pretty insensitive to her needs.
In September her father was given a month to live, as he'd had some cancer cross the border into his brain. She took a bunch of time off to spend time with him, and he ended up dieing in late October. That, coupled with her boyfriend not really paying her any attention lead them to breaking up.
The problem now is that she's still completely breaking down, and I'm not sure what she needs for help. (Yeah, sorry, as an INTP, Emotions might as well be Aramaic). And she doesn't really have any friends other than me who aren't friends of her ex.
Instinct tells me she needs someone to connect with and talk about how she feels, but I don't know if that's really what an INFP needs. She told me she had gone to counseling, but I've now found out she probably didn't (since her story didn't match up with how their process works--and I swear I didn't go behind her back to find this out). I've got several hours before I have a chance to talk with her, so I thought I'd look for some feedback.
Basically her boyfriend for the past few years was kind of a dick, and would hang out with another woman. No one thinks anything was going on with those two, but it causes her a bit of extra pain that he spends more time with the other woman than he does with her, and he's pretty insensitive to her needs.
In September her father was given a month to live, as he'd had some cancer cross the border into his brain. She took a bunch of time off to spend time with him, and he ended up dieing in late October. That, coupled with her boyfriend not really paying her any attention lead them to breaking up.
The problem now is that she's still completely breaking down, and I'm not sure what she needs for help. (Yeah, sorry, as an INTP, Emotions might as well be Aramaic). And she doesn't really have any friends other than me who aren't friends of her ex.
Instinct tells me she needs someone to connect with and talk about how she feels, but I don't know if that's really what an INFP needs. She told me she had gone to counseling, but I've now found out she probably didn't (since her story didn't match up with how their process works--and I swear I didn't go behind her back to find this out). I've got several hours before I have a chance to talk with her, so I thought I'd look for some feedback.