yvonne
A passer by
- Joined
- Mar 1, 2010
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- MBTI Type
- INfP
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- 5w4
Also, with the whole "expressing opinions to others" thing, sometimes I can't express them because I think there must be an impersonal, valid reason to express something that is, inherently, personal and relatively unique to myself. If I can't think of a reason why I think what I think, then I won't say anything because I won't be able to defend it.
A good method to squeeze them out of us, would be very similar to number 2 on that list: the whole "let's step back and take a look at this" approach, because you may have to help them reorganize everything into a coherent picture, so he's able to say, "Aha, I feel bad because of this."
i can identify with this and some of the other stuff in the OP. obviously i'm "better" with the feeling side of things nowadays... i struggle a bit with expressing opinions. i think it's because i wish to be coherent and do it right. i'd like to open my mouth when i know what i am saying and i am familiar with the route that took me to the conclusions i am stating.
i still think i either talk too much, or too little on many occasions. i just can't seem to get it right.