ANSWER 1:
The answer to your question is to integrate form and function.
Minimize your household composition.
Get rid of "stuff" that does not have a regular (used 1x per year or more) purpose.
If there is less stuff strewn everywhere, then there is less to clean, less to become unwieldy, and more time to focus on life itself...
ANSWER 2:
You must also integrate your HOUSEHOLD CLEANING into your DAILY ROUTINE.
If you start with a clean house, and then let it go to shit, it will likely take you several hours (or the proverbial "weekend") to get it back in order.
BUT - if you start with a clean house (2 days work, wall to wall, and floor to ceiling, just accept that as an initiation fee)...
...AND then commit to performing
common household tasks as it becomes necessary to do them
(and not just when the whole place has gone to hell in a handbasket) then your home will never stray too far from its ideal state.
ASSUMPTION:
Saturday: Clean entire pig sty
HALLA'S EASY-PEEZY MAINTENANCE SCHEDULE:
(1) Sunday: Do the dishes/tidy up the kitchen
(2) Monday: Do one or two loads of laundry
(3) Tuesday: Spray mildew remover in the shower, pour bleach in the toilet bowl
(4) Wednesday: Sweep and vaccuum!
(5) Thursday: Take the garbage and recycling out
(6) Friday: De-clutter, and then have a glass of wine as you enjoy your posh pimp crib.
(7) Saturday: You are free to do as you choose, and your house is clean, go forth and frolic, and prosper...
See above. I'm married to an NF, and understand how you all revel in idealizing about the world in all its various potential wonderful conformations, and have seen how such meander-dreaming can cause a disconnect with the pigsty of reality. BUT - I have also seen and enjoyed many conformations of the world as you intended it to be for me, and enjoyed it very, very much, so if I can offer a little practical counsel to keep the miracles flowing my way, I'm able to be selfless enough to make that happen...
Be organized to the point that it is a benefit to your life, not a burden. If your environment is pleasing to your eyes, and you can find all you need when you need it, then you have accomplished creating a HOME and not just A PLACE TO THROW YOUR STUFF.