Wedekit, if you have the book could you describe what this Destroyer thingie is? I tried searching for it and I didn't find anything more than what was in your links. Thanks!
What I liked about this is that I didn't get the typical results I always which makes me curious.
Well, since the definition is very lengthy I am going to try and summarize it without having read it in its entirety:
Destroyer
Quest: Metamorphosis; Growth
Fear: Stagnation or Annihilation; death without rebirth.
Response to "Dragon" (Problem): Be destroyed by it or destroy
Task: To let go; turn it over; accept mortality.
Virtue: Humility, acceptance
The Destroyer is related to our soul (versus being part of the ego or persona). It seems The Destroyer is very related to the "shadow" (Jung) that lies within all of us, as well as the Thanatos. Having a high score in The Destroyer seems to suggest you would have a lot of inner conflict having to do with your own mortality. The Destroyer's "addictive quality" would be self-destruction, which leads to suicide and self-destruction in unhealthy people. Being unhealthy as a Destroyer can also lead to being an abusive or violent person towards others.
The Destroyer becomes our ally when we recognize the need for a change within our lives, or giving up something without denying the pain or grief involved. Essentially the Destroyer within us is not brought out through conscious effort. It can be "initiated" (which should emphasize the Destroyer choosing
us) by things such as the loss of a loved one; or the idea that everything you have worked on has come to nothing. In this sense, the "Shadow Destroyer" (each archetype has a shadow) is an attacker of the soul and it does so to aid the ego, which is turmoiled by the idea that one day we all must die. The Destroyer simply appears and destroys some important part of our life; however notice that I never said this was a bad thing. Though there is pain and grief to be had by this destruction, it also opens a path for a change, or metamorphosis. Mystics took the idea of destruction as a way for the sacred, and they never go back to anything resembling their former life. Think of something like AIDS. If you contracted it, you would feel like your own body was turning against you; like your own body was accepting death. This would cause you to realize that death is essentially a part your Self, and it is a powerful experience of the Shadow.
The Destroyer is said to be at work when "we are going about our ordinary life and suddenly the actions are the same, but the meaning is gone. Everything is suddenly hollow inside." This hollowness wounds us, but also creates an opening that allows us to experience new realities. Take not that she mentions that even when we use our inner Destroyer for positive things (like breaking off a bad relationship) we are bound to feel guilty.
Anyways, just thought I should say that even though some of the stuff in there seems dominantly negative, it is not. Here is the Levels of the Destroyer, which should shed some light on that:
Shadow - Self-destructiveness and or destruction of others.
Call (what "summons" it) - Experience of pain, suffering, tragedy, or loss.
Level 1 - Confusion, grappling with meaning of death, loss, and pain.
Level 2 - Acceptance of mortality, loss, and relative powerlessness.
Level 3 - Ability to choose to let go of anything that no longer supposrts your values, life, and growth, or that of others.