Santosha
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My boss says she is an INFJ.
She knows this because her mother is a psychologist (PHD) and did all the tests on her growing up. Yet she seems to be incapable of theorizing to even moderate degrees. Every time her and I meet to discuss things about work she comments on how I love theoretical examples but she must have hard data. I often have to drag out a notepad and illustrate, what seems to me very basic concepts, by diagram. Timelines and various factors that are changing the process through this and that, how policies are ineffective at this point but would later be effective at this point, how certain reports she is pulling to demonstrate production are not true numbers because they don't take x or y into account, etc. I just don't get it. And to be clear, I work with another intuitive who I can easily convey my thoughts with only a few brief words. Neither of us have worked in this position as long as my boss, so i know its not matter of being unfamiliar with the material.
She finds psychology boring. Initially, I had chalked this up to the possibility that mom inundated her with her with it.. but she recently told me that when she went to stay at her moms house for 2 weeks she almost died of boredom because the only thing she had to entertain herself was shelves lined with dense books. She prefers to be physically engaged, outdoors, gambling or partying. She does read, but it's typically things like Hunger Games, Harry Potter and self-help books for interpersonal relations and managerial style.
She is definitely Fe. We were talking about her 20 yr old daughter and my 19 yo brother.. both of them going through that 'I'm going to exert my independence by making ridiculously stupid life choices that you can't do shit about' phase, and she revealed a whole plethora of emotionally manipulative tactics she is executing via Facebook, her daughters friends and even professors. I was both fascinated and horrified by her desire to meddle in other peoples affairs with such entitlement and determination. She has also cut her daughters college funding off because she doesn't approve of the guy her daughter is dating! All I could contribute was that my brother irritates me as well, but I figure he will hang himself a few times and learn as i did. (I would never, EVER deter my brother from going to college).
She does seem to be introverted, but it's through no social deficiency. She doesn't answer phone calls and becomes very flustered by people dropping in unexpectedly. She processes before response always, even common knowledge.
She is very different than any other confirmed INFJ's I know irl. I realize this doesn't rule it out, but I want to get others input. It's really the difficulty with theory that I find so off-beat. Is this typical for INFJ's? For a while a considered that she was just reserving direction or decision on intangible concepts because she puts so much weight on these things as a manager.. but after enough observation I am certain she just doesn't follow.
What do you think?
She knows this because her mother is a psychologist (PHD) and did all the tests on her growing up. Yet she seems to be incapable of theorizing to even moderate degrees. Every time her and I meet to discuss things about work she comments on how I love theoretical examples but she must have hard data. I often have to drag out a notepad and illustrate, what seems to me very basic concepts, by diagram. Timelines and various factors that are changing the process through this and that, how policies are ineffective at this point but would later be effective at this point, how certain reports she is pulling to demonstrate production are not true numbers because they don't take x or y into account, etc. I just don't get it. And to be clear, I work with another intuitive who I can easily convey my thoughts with only a few brief words. Neither of us have worked in this position as long as my boss, so i know its not matter of being unfamiliar with the material.
She finds psychology boring. Initially, I had chalked this up to the possibility that mom inundated her with her with it.. but she recently told me that when she went to stay at her moms house for 2 weeks she almost died of boredom because the only thing she had to entertain herself was shelves lined with dense books. She prefers to be physically engaged, outdoors, gambling or partying. She does read, but it's typically things like Hunger Games, Harry Potter and self-help books for interpersonal relations and managerial style.
She is definitely Fe. We were talking about her 20 yr old daughter and my 19 yo brother.. both of them going through that 'I'm going to exert my independence by making ridiculously stupid life choices that you can't do shit about' phase, and she revealed a whole plethora of emotionally manipulative tactics she is executing via Facebook, her daughters friends and even professors. I was both fascinated and horrified by her desire to meddle in other peoples affairs with such entitlement and determination. She has also cut her daughters college funding off because she doesn't approve of the guy her daughter is dating! All I could contribute was that my brother irritates me as well, but I figure he will hang himself a few times and learn as i did. (I would never, EVER deter my brother from going to college).
She does seem to be introverted, but it's through no social deficiency. She doesn't answer phone calls and becomes very flustered by people dropping in unexpectedly. She processes before response always, even common knowledge.
She is very different than any other confirmed INFJ's I know irl. I realize this doesn't rule it out, but I want to get others input. It's really the difficulty with theory that I find so off-beat. Is this typical for INFJ's? For a while a considered that she was just reserving direction or decision on intangible concepts because she puts so much weight on these things as a manager.. but after enough observation I am certain she just doesn't follow.
What do you think?