1) What is your type (5w4 or 5w6) and instinctual variant, and how positive are you that your variant is accurate?
5w4. 100% sure on type 5. Am assuming I am a w4 but haven't dug deep enough, honestly, to say I'm totally certain. Instinctual variant = sp/so. I am positive I'm sp-dom. I am pretty sure I'm sp/so given the fact that I relate pretty well to other self-proclaimed sp/so's on the site, and just feel I lack the 'edge'/vulnerability/emotional rawness (or at least, easy and natural accessibility to that) of sp/sx's.
2) How would you describe your overall focus when alone versus in social situations?
I don't know about 'focus' when alone? lol. I'm either doing an activity on my own and focusing on that activity, or am wholly in my head thinking about things. Sometimes both - if not totally immersed in the activity, then my mind might be doing its own thing while doing the activity. Group info below.
3) How would you describe your interaction style when in a group?
When in a group I listen. My 'role' is typically to be a lump and to feel very anxious about being in the group because as an introvert I prefer 1:1, and when part of a group I'm hyper-aware of who seems to be uncomfortable in the group or who possibly took offense, and then I am uncomfortable or feel the 'group' is 'off' because that one person isn't enjoying himself. Sometimes it doesn't affect me all that much. This is a real fuzzy line between whether this is so or whether it's simply Fe.
I'm also often uncomfortable when I sense I have nothing to contribute to the discussion / am bored with the discussion, and then I tend to obsess over why I am there at all and I feel totally weird and inept. But if I am really into the discussion, and/or with close friends I am comfortable with, I am not anxious and I have no problem joining in or adding a comment.
I never go into monologues while in a group, though. I insert comments, or ask questions, and then the other people tend to be the ones who dominate.
4) How would you describe your interaction style in one-on-one situations?
Listener and question-asker. I'm not one to talk about myself and I need others to ask questions of me/show interest in something specific and then I will share. Sometimes though I'll share spontaneously - I'm trying to get better about doing this.
5) How well does this
description of your variant fit you?
I'd say reasonably accurate, with the exception that with a romantic partner it's not quite the same, and I really do want and am able to spend a lot of quality time with him. But, that said, I can easily go two days without seeing him or talking on the phone, just emailing, so I'm probably a lot more 'solo' than most people are in relationships.
6) How did you decide on your variant? Was there anything that gave it away, or else made you change your mind from what you previously thought it was?
Primarily because I tend to see a distinct difference between myself and sx-doms on the forum, such that it makes no sense that I'd be sx-dom, and not a whole lot of sense that I'd be even sx-aux. I think I'm much more distanced and reserved, and while I consider myself very open about ideas and sharing thoughts and such, I've never been open at all about discussing emotions/raw feelings, or even necessarily being willing to share them, and have never easily conveyed those more turbulent, confused, non-fluffy ones (it's never flowed out of me spontaneously.. I need to get to a point where I can't deal with them any more, need to release a little, and then it's a painful rather stuttering choking process of talking about what's going on. Very very delayed, after a lot of thought and inability to resolve on my own. ).
I also don't think my good friendships are as... 'intense'... as that of sp/sx's. I think my idea of a close friendship is of a different nature than that of sp/sx... I'm ok not sharing all of my feelings and everything going on in my personal life.. I'm more just about talking about concepts and ideas and what's going on, but I don't really have a need / natural inclination to talk about my own problems or emotions. To be clear I have no problem hearing others talk about what they're going through, and I enjoy trying to help them, but I can't say I output the same level in return. But it IS paramount to me that I'm able to talk about my own issues to my trusted partners/friends, and show that vulnerability, if I need to. It's just very uncommon fr me to need to. It's all very much done in my own head. I'm always trying to get better at sharing these sorts of things, but my point is that it's not really natural for me.