You ENFJs just can't do it all.
You're the ones most people take for granted.
It's okay sometimes to be the one who has it hard, who has to rely on someone. My mom is always the one who is the shoulder to everybody, and has been that all her life.
She's who I respect in this world (there aren't that many at that level, quite frankly). The things she's put up with, all that has been loaded on her shoulders, and has persevered, her outlook on life has been an inspiration for me.
I know many people feel their "mom" is their inspiration but I don't see it like that. It's honestly about her.
But as she is this stoic rock to everybody, and I believe ENFJs usually are the "contact person" in whatever network they are in, she's never had anyone's shoulder. And she actually said that she doesn't know if there's anyone strong enough to carry her through as she has done to others.
I can't really make it any easier on you guys, but some people do know about the baggage. I know a few ENFJs and they all seem to have that.
It's wrong to take, take, take and give nothing in return, to use others.
ENFJ needs a loving and caring partner.