Sounds a bit like my INFJ aunt. I adore her and get compared to her a lot by family (so this criticism is not as harsh as it seems; and she does have good qualities), but she might qualify as an Evil INFJ (and yes, she has tested INFJ & even gone to an MBTI seminar & verified it). I'm going to illustrate with a detailed description of her flaws, because I know many can't imagine the all mighty INFJ type ever being a mere mortal with flaws.
1) She is very much a "dish it out, but can't take it" type. She can say extremely nasty, mean things to people in the heat of emotion, and you had better forgive her later, but if you do it to her, she'll hold a grudge for years over how awful you were to her (she'll be "traumatized" and blah blah). I may be sensitive also, but I get over stuff way faster, and I know if I dish it out, then I have it coming back to me & can't gripe about it.
2) Has a really, really bad temper that she takes out on people a bit too easily. Worst of the FJs in my family; and she has no shame about it & will never apologize later. Sometimes her sharp tongue is funny. She'll insult strangers in public by making purposely loud comments about them to her friends/family. I have to admit, it's hilarious & we egg her on. However, when her sharp tongue terms on someone close to her, it's shocking how cruel she is. She once was mad at her ISTx husband, and in a store when it came time to pay, she took money out of her purse, tossed it on the ground and said to him "Pick it up and pay" in front of a line of people. How humiliating and emasculating for him... Before she had couple's therapy she did stuff like that a LOT to him.
3) Has possibly never uttered the words "I'm sorry" in her whole life. Like too many INFJs, there's an arrogance about their rightness, so that they can never humble themselves to admit they were wrong. The other person always has to make the bridge first because they never see their part in it; too quick to criticize others, and an aversion to self-scrutiny. I cringe every time my ISFJ mom has to extend the olive branch with her sister, when my aunt was the one who crossed the line (she called my mom a "stupid cow" once when my mom emailed her to tell her their mom, my gma, was very ill in the hospital, implying my mom was trying to lay a guilt trip by telling her about it - who does that?!).
4) Manipulates people's sympathy to get her way or hide the truth. When she was a kid, my mom said she played up her asthma with their dad to get attention and her way. As an adult, she does this to some degree. It's a lot sneakier than open victim-playing though. Her husband and her separated for a bit years ago, and she successfully painted him a jerk to others; anyone who witnessed scenes like the above mentioned store example could sympathize with him a bit though....
5) Two-faced. She's on the side of whoever she is talking to, eager to criticize whoever is not there.
6) Massive hypocrite. She'll talk on and on about being vegan and boycotting McDonalds and all her green peace crap, but then she'll start eating meat again when her vegan diet causes her to gain weight (too many carbs). She gets fast food all the time, because she does not like to cook and is a working mom; out of convenience, she'll break her boycott against McDonald's because she's to tired to go out of her way to another drive through. The inconsistency with her beliefs and behavior is astounding to me. To an FP, this kind of inconsistency is inexcusable, especially when accompanied by a shamelessness. She justifies it so easily in her own mind (Ni perspective shift?). Also, she can go on and on about her beliefs, however much they contradict yours, but don't you dare mention your beliefs that contradict hers, or she gets all huffy & accuses you of guilt-tripping.
7) Bossy in a way that insults other people's intelligence, and just butts in where it's not her place. She tried to plan the menu to my HS grad party - even though she was not attending it. She once sent a list of foods her son could and could not eat when staying with us (ridiculous stuff like "only organic beef", and he can't drink out of plastic cups :rolli: ). For many years, my mom trusted her to watch me as a child, without any detailed set of instructions, before my aunt was even a mother herself. My mom has raised two kids; it's not like she's going to poison her nephew.... Plus, as we took care of most of his expenses while he stayed with us, it was very rude to expect us to go out and buy special food for him. This is even more ridiculous considering my aunt hardly cooks. Her family eats out all the time (I stayed with them for a summer once). My mom, however, cooks everything from scratch and we have wide pallets. My cousin is picky about food and prefers processed packaged stuff, because that's what my aunt feeds him.
8) Snobby, but pretends she is not. She'll wail on about how materialistic SoCal is (she's in NorCal), but then makes fun of how people in her hippy town dress. She's always been into name brand clothing. The label is more important than the style to her. It can be the most bland dress ever, but if it's a designer label, then she likes it. She acts picky about food quality in restaurants, but then cooks packaged stuff and feeds fast food to her family a lot. She's very status conscience & places a lot of emphasis on getting degrees and having impressive job titles (especially for her son), but yet, she never finished college herself and has some non-descript office job. This sort of goes hand-in-hand with the hypocrite thing...
9) Not affectionate. Her personality is only warm in that she compliments people a lot and can be outgoing socially (not a shy introvert). She hates hugging and sentimental expression though. I would have typed her a T (I thought eNTJ maybe), but I realize now she is very Fe, just not typical soft Fe.