entropie
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The wise person foresees that the dating issues before marriage will not go away after marriage; they'll get worse. She should accept him the way he is or break up with him.
i dont believe that, people change, i have changed myself from antisocial drunkard to successful business man (tho i dont know where the difference is )
I maybe an idiot but I always believe there is hope. and in the ops case i dont think its really dramatic. i rather think he is just a bit jealous plus fears too loose her. if one doesnt make a huge problem out of that, you could try changing him. manipulation master out
p.s.: at some point the op wrote 'that she went out without him visiting friends and three bars alone in the middle of the night'
a man who loves his woman and doenst become jealous of his woman doing that, does not exist. and tho you can of course let your girl go party alone, you can only do that if you trust her. but if she uses to go out over and over again without reassuring trust but rather reassuring dislike towards his behaviour, problems will follow.
I rather see the classical problem here: xnfp forgets to think like his partner and doesnt calculate that he could interpret some things fundamentally different from the xnfps perception. I have such a version at home, I know what i am talking about (or at least i pretend to xD)