Well, the thing that makes me feel inadequate as a single parent (and in a rather unique position since technically I'm their dad AND mom, in a very real sense...*)...
Well, I'm fine until I start reading blogs of other moms, you know, where they just go on and on and on about their kids ALL the time, saying their kids are their life, their everything, their sun and moon and all that stuff, uploading dozens and dozens of pictures of them (which all look the same to me) and other moms commenting on them with sentimental coos and ahhs and stuff like that... and then there's my blog, where I barely mention my kids except in passing, and where they totally DEFINE themselves as parents/mothers, I feel my identity is very much independent of my parenthood, which is something "do", not something I "am".
Just makes me feel like, well, I love my kids and I utterly put them first in my life, you know... but I'm not even capable of that level of attachment, I really don't think I am at all and I don't feel like that's a bad thing. But it's just, when I read that sort of stuff, it makes me feel hopelessly inadequate and as if I must be very cold, and I worry that my kids might think that too.
But then I see the other side of things - how a lot of the kids of those women are very cossetted and sheltered, and quite restricted, you know, they don't have a lot of independence or freedom, and I contrast that with my kids who feel free to come and go and speak freely, and how I've never been one of those parents who other parents approach to talk about problems with their kids bullying and stuff, you know the ones who instantly get defensive and act all like "my darling would NEVER do a thing like THAT!"
So... I dunno. I guess it's fine, until I temporarily start to feel shitty and stingey with the affection when I have that other end of the spectrum shoved in my face and get forced to compare myself to them.
(*explained on my website if you're curious, linked in my sig)