Samvega
Buddhist Misanthrope
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Interesting to see this thread pop up almost five years after I last posted in it. My thoughts have really, really changed on much of this as follows:
Types I see as a plus, have done well with, see long term potential in:
ENTP (1 of 2 I'm most interested in for long term)
ENFP (2 of 2 I'm most interested in for long term)
ESTP (I have dated a couple, awesome people and relationships, a slight compromise in intellectual banter, I hit the ball, they really don't hit it back)
INTJ (I have always done very, very well with them, I value them, their perspective and never had an issue, I lived with an INTJ for awhile, no issues, we both valued our space, it was a healthy dynamic)
INTP (I have always gotten along with them, never dated one, I'm more than open to it but an intimate dynamic isn't something I have a working understanding of)
Types I'm curious about and open to further exploring:
ENTJ (Haven't dated, I have some concerns that would require more feeling out, it would be dependent on levels of respect and support in our lifestyle difference)
ENFJ (I've known many, the 20 something versions were a handful but they seem to mature well and I could see the dynamic working)
ISTJ (I really appreciate them, a lot, I'm just not sure how bored I would get, I have know some very solid, mature ISTJs and I respect all that they are which I am not, I also know what needs they wouldn't meet for me)
ISTP (I dated one, not a big enough sample to choose from, she was a lot to handle for most but very tame for me)
INFP (Damn that Ne/Ne is sexy as hell, INFPs seem to come in two flavors, those I'm really attracted to and those I'm not even remotely attracted to, maybe dependent on how avoidant they are)
ISFP (Again, a type I value for what I'm not, it's been a long time since I have dated one so this is a big maybe for me, I could however see myself happy with a sweet homesteading hippy girl)
Types that I have no interest in and would be instantly friend zoned:
INFJ (I have dated, slept with, known, and been interested in what I'd venture to say is more than any other person in this group, this horse is beat to death and it just doesn't work for me)
ISFJ (I'm scared of them, I don't feel like I could even get to know one well enough to make an informed choice without her expecting me to propose, they seem to get more bitter with age too)
ESFJ (Lacking the connection I need but not like it is with an ISTJ, ESFJ just feels like a roommate I'm sleeping with)
ESFP (I don't know what it is about them but I have never found it to be a good fit, I've dated a couple, I don't trust them, communication issues, just not for me)
ESTJ (Never even been interested in one so they're here on my list, I guess it feels like a compromise of all things needed for me, no single area that appeals to me)
This list is a result of maturity on my end and would have differed when I was younger, I do feel I could date any type, because of the changes within that allow me to value and accept the different things each person has to offer, because of my lack of attachment to them being a certain way, because of me not having expectations for them. 20 years ago I sought balance in the areas I'm weak, as I grow, my openness to differences also grows as I no longer need my partner to be something I'm lacking nor to I fear the aspects of them I fear within myself.
Types I see as a plus, have done well with, see long term potential in:
ENTP (1 of 2 I'm most interested in for long term)
ENFP (2 of 2 I'm most interested in for long term)
ESTP (I have dated a couple, awesome people and relationships, a slight compromise in intellectual banter, I hit the ball, they really don't hit it back)
INTJ (I have always done very, very well with them, I value them, their perspective and never had an issue, I lived with an INTJ for awhile, no issues, we both valued our space, it was a healthy dynamic)
INTP (I have always gotten along with them, never dated one, I'm more than open to it but an intimate dynamic isn't something I have a working understanding of)
Types I'm curious about and open to further exploring:
ENTJ (Haven't dated, I have some concerns that would require more feeling out, it would be dependent on levels of respect and support in our lifestyle difference)
ENFJ (I've known many, the 20 something versions were a handful but they seem to mature well and I could see the dynamic working)
ISTJ (I really appreciate them, a lot, I'm just not sure how bored I would get, I have know some very solid, mature ISTJs and I respect all that they are which I am not, I also know what needs they wouldn't meet for me)
ISTP (I dated one, not a big enough sample to choose from, she was a lot to handle for most but very tame for me)
INFP (Damn that Ne/Ne is sexy as hell, INFPs seem to come in two flavors, those I'm really attracted to and those I'm not even remotely attracted to, maybe dependent on how avoidant they are)
ISFP (Again, a type I value for what I'm not, it's been a long time since I have dated one so this is a big maybe for me, I could however see myself happy with a sweet homesteading hippy girl)
Types that I have no interest in and would be instantly friend zoned:
INFJ (I have dated, slept with, known, and been interested in what I'd venture to say is more than any other person in this group, this horse is beat to death and it just doesn't work for me)
ISFJ (I'm scared of them, I don't feel like I could even get to know one well enough to make an informed choice without her expecting me to propose, they seem to get more bitter with age too)
ESFJ (Lacking the connection I need but not like it is with an ISTJ, ESFJ just feels like a roommate I'm sleeping with)
ESFP (I don't know what it is about them but I have never found it to be a good fit, I've dated a couple, I don't trust them, communication issues, just not for me)
ESTJ (Never even been interested in one so they're here on my list, I guess it feels like a compromise of all things needed for me, no single area that appeals to me)
This list is a result of maturity on my end and would have differed when I was younger, I do feel I could date any type, because of the changes within that allow me to value and accept the different things each person has to offer, because of my lack of attachment to them being a certain way, because of me not having expectations for them. 20 years ago I sought balance in the areas I'm weak, as I grow, my openness to differences also grows as I no longer need my partner to be something I'm lacking nor to I fear the aspects of them I fear within myself.