It's true that MBT/Typeology definitions of extravert/introvert are
different from what's socially accepted as introvert/extrovert.
Everything about MBT classification starts from your internal motivations/fears and processes and what other people see on the outside is secondary or symptomatic (okay not quite the right word).
But people in the 'real world' on a day to day basis form judgements of you based on how you
actand portray yourself and "come across" within a 20 second, 5 minute, 6 week etc. span and that's how they know and classify you until they get to know you better (and most don't and never will)
LadyX, I thought you were asking whether or not people peg us as extroverts based on the popular, not MBT, definition of extravert/introvert?
Because yeah, I think a lot of ENFPs can fly under the radar, particularly if they are of the really laid-back energy variety. There is definitely an automatic response to classify people who are quieter as introverted and with a soft-spoken extravert, you would need to be around them longer to see their patterns emerge.
The popular conception of 'introvert/extrovert' and the typeology definition can be at odds in other ways too. I have seen some of the most insanely loud, outgoing, brash, socially engaging and organizing, high activity level people call themselves "extreme introverts". I have no idea how they could keep up their non 24/7 non stop high levels of
voluntary social interaction with tons of people that they do without some negative consequence, I swear it even makes
me tired. I kinda suspect one guy I know who says this of being an ENFP.
Then again, introverts can be
hella active and go out constantly as well as be very involved in 'extracurricular' social planning and volunteer work. I think Protean Mix even commented on this before, too.
I also think you can be introverted and seemingly very busy and "socializing" but it's not as draining as one would tihnk because you're not focusing or even totally engaging with each person. I think it has to do with the internal orientation the introvert is taking to the situation as well.
Okay, I'm ramblign now! Break!