My Dad is an INTJ, and we are often found fighting like cat and dog.
Honestly, we love each other to pieces and have much to teach each other (and do, on those occasions when we get along for more than three seconds) but he has this really warped image of me, not having that well a developed intuition - and his tendency to only express affection when I've achieved academically (intuitively and intellectually - I
know that is not what his affection is dependent on, but this is how he can come across) can be quite hurtful.
He's almost always convinced he's right, and tends to view me as argumentative - when I'm merely trying to open his mind to other sides of a debate. It's very frustrating, needless to say. He also has a tendency to try and control me at times (which could be more of a parent-thing than an INTJ-thing, I'm not sure?) and we all know how that ends, when someone tries to restrict an ENFP's freedom
I must add though - I have quite a developed 'T' for a feeler, perhaps that has some impact on my relationship with him? (You'd think it would be EASIER to communicate in this instance, wouldn't you?)
I think this might be an early-on communication break down though - and since I know of no other INTJ close to me, have nothing to compare it to.