Tallulah
Emerging
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- Feb 19, 2008
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- INTP
It's a legitimate question. If she feels that I am engaging in something with the purpose of sexually exciting or creating feelings of romantic attachment, I would have to take this seriously. Obviously.
Yeah, that's where the gray area lies--you might have a moral, black and white, policy about not flirting, but what happens when you don't really think you're flirting, but others do? That seems to be what the ENFPs are frustrated with.
I guess the whole key to the thing is a) intent and b) what's within reason? I wouldn't change my entire personality for a boyfriend. But if I was doing something hurtful without realizing, I'd examine my behavior and be considerate. But there are those that get extremely possessive in a relationship, and are constantly convinced that you're out to cheat. That's not within reason, to me. At that point, I'd just realize that our personalities were not going to mesh, and that one or both of us would constantly be miserable.