Amargith
Hotel California
- Joined
- Nov 5, 2008
- Messages
- 14,717
- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 4dw
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
Of course it takes time. But constantly justifying your actions and seeing nothing wrong with them, and saying "well, it's the journey towards enlightenment" just smells like irresponsibility. It's like "poor me, I can't help being who I am, but surely I can't be blamed for that. I can only blame the mean TJs that judge people harshly and without feelings. Me? I'm on the path to something better. I'm not perfect. I can't be expected to be perfect. So I'll just keep doing what comes naturally to me."
Basically I don't understand the point in what you just said? What are you trying to say? That it takes time? I'm not saying it doesn't.
I'm saying we're all human and we're all immature at some point. I'm not condoning it, and yes, I agree that we should try to minimize the damage we do to others. VEry much so. But give people a chance to work things out. And don't condemn them on making a mistake. Stop expecting them to be perfect, especially if they show that they are working on it, and struggling with it.
And lastly, who the f*** determines that the way an ENFP goes about talking to another is wrong. It comes naturally to *most of us* and we're not the only immature people around, I'd like to add. There's a bunch of introverts who are very much very possessive and jealous once they get interested in a person, as they don't easily invest in another person. And I understand that, and that's their immaturity and there is nothing wrong with them having that as a flaw, as they too are still growing.
What I'm saying is that both are to blame. Not just one of 'em. Understanding where everyone is coming from, is key. And neither should have to give up their way of being though thoughtfulness can be implemented once understanding is reached. From both sides.