Hey Scientist, I sympathize with you. I didn't read your whole thread, but I get the gist of what happened and how you feel.
No he wouldn't. He would give me some lame 'ol excuse and not be honest with me. ENFP is not going to tell me the truth if it's going to be hurtful.
Correction, a weak-willed ENFP will avoid telling you the truth when you ask for it and are entitled to it. If being deceitful and dishonest because the truth makes you
uncomfortable or because you are straight up manipulative, oh hell no, I'm turning in my ENFP card!
An ENFP who has ironed out their personal code of ethics and decided to step up for the greater good will tell the truth when you want it and sometimes when you don't want it.
Some Fi doms suck at telling the truth. Or sometimes unbridled Fi will keep an Fi from telling the truth when they should.
For no other reason than it makes them uncomfortable and they are afraid of your reaction/how things will change once they let it out. Sometimes it's just this gut/instinctive fear or hesitation.
No one deserves being jerked around and I personally can't fucking stand liars. Liars are either cowards or selfish or both.
I mean, there are SO many ways to tell the truth, to articulate something (and in theory ENFPs are supposed to excel in this!) I mean, you can still BS and embellish and soften and obfuscate and imply and tell the truth. So with all those option to
still lie?
I cant put up with his BS anymore. I'm done with it.
Good for you. Down with the tyranny of bs!
Again, sorry, haven't read the whole story, but will you be sending him an email explaining exactly how you feel with specific examples of bs or confronting him directly? I do agree with EnfPer that the best conclusions to draw will be on direct information from him.
Also, this is not to let someone off the hook for misleading you - but in what ways did you allow yourself to be mislead? Did you see and hear what you wanted to?
You have already said you directly confronted/asked him what was going on? Which is
exactly what you should do if you are unclear about someone's intent or you yourself have intentions.
I think though, if you try a few times to get to the bottom of things or to let someone know your boundaries and expectations - if things still don't change you should walk away.
Confront and walk away much sooner next time. Don't let things linger when there is a lack of clarity.
Maybe an ENTP and I would fare better.
Oh helllllll no. On this I will agree with my fellow ENFPS - if you want accountability and clarity (in regards to "flirting" et. al.) you are
not moving up with an ENTP (just check the 'ENTP Sex' thread).
I don't think it's a bad idea for you for right now at least to take flirting as total bs and just not engage with anyone you think is trying to flrit with you. Until you at least sort out better the POV and intent of the people who are trying to flirt with you. A polite smile, a nod, that's all you need to acknowledge it and move on.
Not all people who flirt with you are desperate attention whores who need to get their egos stroked.
But, assuming that they
are is probably better for you right now than to go along with it.