Yeah, she's all those things. Yet she has this side of her that I'm not sure fits in - she can be incredibly dismissive/cold when she perceives that someone has done her wrong or done a friend wrong (even if it's not a big deal). So IMO there is a lot of 'drama' around her. She recently dumped one of her best friends over something fairly trivial (at least to my mind) and because my daughter is the unofficial leader of the group, I'm afraid that this other girl lost most of her friends. Well, they are in highschool and it's none of my business but when I was her age I was definately more easy going about other people. On the exterior, however my daughter is open-minded, casual, and has a slightly 'alternative' vibe. She's also begging for piercings and a tattoo. :steam:
If it's any help, my ENFP best friend dropped one of our close friends because the friend didn't return an "important" phone call. When a close friend of the girl she dropped died, she didn't even give her a call to give sympathy. I found that extremely puzzling (and also a bit rude) but my ENFP best friend still feels as though our friend wronged her and refuses to budge.
I'm guessing it's a Fi thing because both my INFP cousin & brother do the same exact thing.