I have an ENFP friend that I have known for a few years. Although I have known him through friends we never really talked much.
It was sort of odd because I noticed when we were together he would constantly say my name for no reason. Suddenly toward the end of last year he friended me on both of my social media accounts. One night I had posted about feeling lonely and he messaged me. Sending me some very comforting messages and giving me his number. We had some very deep conversations over the next month and a half and hung out some.
He asked what my type was once but guessed ENFJ before I could answer. I hadn't taken the test in years and had honestly forgotten. When I took it this time it said ENFJ but with no particular leaning toward E vs. I. However, when I read discriptions of INFJ I feel like I'm reading about myself.
I was attracted to him very quickly. A mutual friend told me that she knew if he were interested he wouldn't admit it. I ended up admitting to him that I was interested but he told me he had never thought about me like that. He said he was sorry if he had misled me and seemed genuinely concerned over my feelings at that point. I backed off for a while. After maybe a month we started hanging out some again in groups.
Another mutual friend and I were planning on going to a festival that was a few hours away. I invited him and he made arrangements to come. It ended up being a 14 hour day. He offered to buy us coffee and actually did buy me dinner at the end of the day. Although it was late and we had been out so long he still invited us to hang out at his house. He mentioned love languages and said his was physical touch. I already knew mine would probably be the same. The test confirmed it at which point he actually suggested the 3 of us sit in a circle and give back massage (didn't happen though)
I had also invited several friends to karaoke one night. He came and rented a pool table. As big as the place was he literally stood so close to me that we were arm to arm.
Recently he has been going out of his way to be around me more. He asked a friend if I could come and watch a movie with them. There was another couple there plus another girl that is pretty much like a sister to him. Before the movie he was looking at the hosts anatomy book and looked directly at me and told me he has actually studied up on the female cycle. I thought it was endearing. We all got put out of out friends house at about 9:30pm so they could go to bed. After that he invited me and his best guy friend over to his house. He fixed us something to eat and told us to make ourselves at home.
As far as the physical contact thing he is often changing his seat so he can sit next to me. Even if it means being smushed in the middle of the back seat of a car. We were even on a country road and he seemed to enjoy it when I playfully leaned into him when going around a curve. He also lingers around me when we are about to part ways. I'm almost positive he is hoping for a hug. He had never initiated one and I try not to seem creepy by doing it all the time (although I asked, and he says I've never made him feel uncomfortable with my hugs)
This past week we spent 4 days in a row together. He has been asking me a lot of questions and often even asks me if I think his behavior was acceptable in a certain situation. Like if what he said was inappropriate or if he shouldn't have played that weird video, or if the movie he chose was ok.. And even if his response to being tickled was bad (high pitched scream).
I tend to flirt with him some and he seems to enjoy it. Like me giving him a Hershey kiss and telling him not to tell anybody that I "gave him a kiss". He has also been making a lot of eye contact. Sometimes one of us will say something while we are sitting next to eachother and he will look at me out of the corner of his eye and grin all big. When we are talking he will just look at me all intently. He even realized Sunday that I wasn't feeling good.. I told him I was ok. And he started asking me if I enjoyed all the the things we had done the day before. I was also talking about riding motorcycles and he seemed interested in going. And when I mentioned having water skis he said he wanted to try it(finding reasons to be together?)
He has also started complimenting me suddenly. From my socks, to my shoes and my shirt..
It is to the point where people are asking a mutual friend if we have something going on between us. Whether or not he realizes it I feel like we have pretty intense chemistry. He can tell a cheesy joke that I have never heard and I somehow know the punchline. I can also look at him and know when he is anxious or worried and he can look at me and know when I don't feel good.
I'm trying not to get my hopes up after what happened before but I feel like things are changing between us. Does it sound like he is interested?
Sorry for being long winded. I look forward to getting some input.
BTW, he is 12 years my senior if it makes a difference.
It was sort of odd because I noticed when we were together he would constantly say my name for no reason. Suddenly toward the end of last year he friended me on both of my social media accounts. One night I had posted about feeling lonely and he messaged me. Sending me some very comforting messages and giving me his number. We had some very deep conversations over the next month and a half and hung out some.
He asked what my type was once but guessed ENFJ before I could answer. I hadn't taken the test in years and had honestly forgotten. When I took it this time it said ENFJ but with no particular leaning toward E vs. I. However, when I read discriptions of INFJ I feel like I'm reading about myself.
I was attracted to him very quickly. A mutual friend told me that she knew if he were interested he wouldn't admit it. I ended up admitting to him that I was interested but he told me he had never thought about me like that. He said he was sorry if he had misled me and seemed genuinely concerned over my feelings at that point. I backed off for a while. After maybe a month we started hanging out some again in groups.
Another mutual friend and I were planning on going to a festival that was a few hours away. I invited him and he made arrangements to come. It ended up being a 14 hour day. He offered to buy us coffee and actually did buy me dinner at the end of the day. Although it was late and we had been out so long he still invited us to hang out at his house. He mentioned love languages and said his was physical touch. I already knew mine would probably be the same. The test confirmed it at which point he actually suggested the 3 of us sit in a circle and give back massage (didn't happen though)
I had also invited several friends to karaoke one night. He came and rented a pool table. As big as the place was he literally stood so close to me that we were arm to arm.
Recently he has been going out of his way to be around me more. He asked a friend if I could come and watch a movie with them. There was another couple there plus another girl that is pretty much like a sister to him. Before the movie he was looking at the hosts anatomy book and looked directly at me and told me he has actually studied up on the female cycle. I thought it was endearing. We all got put out of out friends house at about 9:30pm so they could go to bed. After that he invited me and his best guy friend over to his house. He fixed us something to eat and told us to make ourselves at home.
As far as the physical contact thing he is often changing his seat so he can sit next to me. Even if it means being smushed in the middle of the back seat of a car. We were even on a country road and he seemed to enjoy it when I playfully leaned into him when going around a curve. He also lingers around me when we are about to part ways. I'm almost positive he is hoping for a hug. He had never initiated one and I try not to seem creepy by doing it all the time (although I asked, and he says I've never made him feel uncomfortable with my hugs)
This past week we spent 4 days in a row together. He has been asking me a lot of questions and often even asks me if I think his behavior was acceptable in a certain situation. Like if what he said was inappropriate or if he shouldn't have played that weird video, or if the movie he chose was ok.. And even if his response to being tickled was bad (high pitched scream).
I tend to flirt with him some and he seems to enjoy it. Like me giving him a Hershey kiss and telling him not to tell anybody that I "gave him a kiss". He has also been making a lot of eye contact. Sometimes one of us will say something while we are sitting next to eachother and he will look at me out of the corner of his eye and grin all big. When we are talking he will just look at me all intently. He even realized Sunday that I wasn't feeling good.. I told him I was ok. And he started asking me if I enjoyed all the the things we had done the day before. I was also talking about riding motorcycles and he seemed interested in going. And when I mentioned having water skis he said he wanted to try it(finding reasons to be together?)
He has also started complimenting me suddenly. From my socks, to my shoes and my shirt..
It is to the point where people are asking a mutual friend if we have something going on between us. Whether or not he realizes it I feel like we have pretty intense chemistry. He can tell a cheesy joke that I have never heard and I somehow know the punchline. I can also look at him and know when he is anxious or worried and he can look at me and know when I don't feel good.
I'm trying not to get my hopes up after what happened before but I feel like things are changing between us. Does it sound like he is interested?
Sorry for being long winded. I look forward to getting some input.
BTW, he is 12 years my senior if it makes a difference.