Let it be said that I enjoy both types a lot, am known to
ENFJs unlike their introverted counterparts, and to be BFFs with ENFPs. That said, I too saw major bias against ENFPs in the OP. I see a conflation of the "free spirit" non-linear method of the ENFP with a lack of integrity ^ lack of concern for others, which is decidedly NOT Fi.
ENFJ
1- More able to clearly identify and pursue a life-long project. (Overly rigid when defining personal goals.)
2- Orchestrates / minds what is said, so as to not damage other people's pride / vanity / self-esteem / feelings. (Says whatever they think other people want to hear.)
3- When looking out for solutions, prefers one that is most convenient and simple to all involved. (Tries to please the group at all costs.)
4- Very likely to observe social regulations and traditions without too much thought on overhauling or questioning them. (Doesn’t think for themselves. Never questions traditions even when they need to be changed.)
5- Less prone to acting without consultation or thinking about long-term consequences, especially when it concerns people. (Can’t do anything without the approval of the group.)
6- More interested and more energized by being in a long-term, harmonious relationship (romantic and non-romantic alike). (Focuses on long-term relationships at the expense of forming new relationships.)
#1 - Gets stuck on a single path, goes into paralysis if cannot make it happen or it turns out to not be so good. May try to coerce and manipulate people along the way under a veil of the "greater good", when it's really their personal vision (see "Ni" and "Hitler").
For #2 also: shames others into adjusting ways to what they feel is best, since they experience their own feelings as objective.
For #3 also: can make "one size fits most" decisions, leaving out fringe people, or attempts to shame them into the "one size" mold. Perhaps convinces self the decision is for the best of everyone instead of in their own interests (inferior Ti cold manipulations?).
#4: See "shaming" again. Also, their values will shift with contexts. Social regulations and traditions are not timeless, rather they shift pretty dramatically over just a few generations or less. They will reflect that rather than any timeless sense of "values". Plus, it's all about function, not meaning.... pretty shallow stuff.
#5: Takes too long to gather consensus & creates too many imaginary reasons not to go forward. Consensus doesn't result in being the best decision... ends up trying to please everyone. Loses vision in the process. Possibly didn't have integrity to begin with. If decision fails, will find a person who was part of the consensus to throw under the bus.
#6: Extremely picky about who they enter a "real relationship" with, but flirts like mad with "friends", shameless collecting admirers they string along until they find their holy grail of romance. Leads INFPs on.
ENFP
1- More difficulty in defining their lifetime goals, let alone pursuing them...in truth, prefers the thought of the being free to do so without constraints.
2- Tends to communicate with «no filter», meaning that, although sensitive, they may unwittingly hurt people when enthusiastically pursuing attractive ideas / lines of thought.
3-Prefers to look for unique solutions, no matter how erratically, and much prefers to leave their implementing to others.
4-Much less willing to compromise / be obliged by social regulations and conventions if their visions and feelings are at stake.
5-Prone to acting without consultation and with little regard to long-term consequences...likely to be caught with pants down again and again...usually apologizes profusely afterwards, but may struggle to keep resolution.
6-Prefers to explore in relationships, often prefers the spark of the new ones to the steadfastness of old ones...easily bored.
1 - Doesn't have "lifetime goals" so much, but refined feeling-values, aka, concepts about what is fundamentally significant to the human experience. Explores potential as it emerges and sees what embodies these concepts & how to nurture them in others. In the process, discovers all kinds of stuff that the blinders of "goals" would cause one to miss.
2 - No filter is often true, but this can also mean greater sincerity, cutting through BS, and truly considering other views instead of trying to push others into a consensus
3 - Prefers to unearth hidden potential others would miss, and as this is their talent, knows how to delegate the other tasks
. Seriously though, they have an eye for potential in others & are good at bringing the right people on board to help with bringing a vision to fruition.
4 - Not just their vision and feelings...but those of other outliers. Aware of underdogs and the under-appreciated, those left out and persecuted by such conventions, etc. Looks out for others' feelings & visions also.
5 - Owns their ideas & results... doesn't dole out blame if results fail. Recovers quickly from loss, quickly seeing next possibility. Doesn't consult so much as explore other perspectives, and after doing so, may still see their own as the way to go (likely due to Fi rational reasoning, not shown on the surface). Not getting caught up in consensus means being able to take a stand when the majority is violating some basic human rights/needs.
6 - Fickleness is a problem with N-dom... I think ENFPs have less concrete standards for partners & they don't want to overlook a possibility, so there's more of an exploring process until they find the right fit. In contrast to the ENFJ, ENFP intentions are clearer, as the person is more aware of their actual emotions & honest about what a connection MEANS, regardless of the label its been given (this is opposed to hiding behind predefined "roles" to evaluate relationships and not actual dynamics as they are occurring; something ENFJs do: "We're just friends, even though we make out & take vacations along together; why can't my husband accept that?").