I've been friends with this ENFP (male) for a while now. Last year, I made an attempt (as an INTJ, I know, unbelievable) to make my feelings clear by baking him a loaf of bread (INTJ fail) and writing him a long card for his birthday. In the card, I didn't say it outright that I like it---it was simply a hint that he was special. Oddly, he didn't even say 'thank you' (of which he later mentioned that he didn't know how to respond, thus the silence).
It has been months since then and our 'friendship' isn't the same. Maybe because I stopped trying? Who knows... But recently, he has been acting differently. Perhaps other ENFPs can tell me if these signs are something:
- He asked for my opinion about a personal matter and used the advice given. Then later, sent me a message saying he couldn't have done the right thing without my advice.
- He forwards videos, memes, and silly trivia (I suppose due to being in quarantine) almost daily.
- With the above said, we text daily. And he likes doing 'whyyy' or 'okayyy' , etc. (Could be because of Covid-19 too)(Could be because of Covid-19 too)
- He invited me to Zoom call recently and the first thing he said was, "Just seeing your face makes me happy". The first 30 minutes were about his business plans, which I've already heard countless times, since he repeats himself often. The next couple of hours was random stuff, with moments of silence, stupid jokes, and me going way past my bedtime (till 2am). I caught him yawning at least 7 times since 1am but I felt like neither of us wanted to end the call. Anyway... moving on.
- He gets my opinion about his business, and takes my word for any matters in my area of expertise without question.
- In regards to his business, I feel like he's trying to get me involved in it as much as possible. He literally merged my plan with his, so that we could work together long term.
For the most part, I feel like he has been hot and cold. And perhaps, he just sees me as a 'business partner' with nothing romantic. Thus, the above could be completely nothing. But I thought there was no harm putting this here to see what other ENFPs think.
Your thoughts are most welcomed!
It has been months since then and our 'friendship' isn't the same. Maybe because I stopped trying? Who knows... But recently, he has been acting differently. Perhaps other ENFPs can tell me if these signs are something:
- He asked for my opinion about a personal matter and used the advice given. Then later, sent me a message saying he couldn't have done the right thing without my advice.
- He forwards videos, memes, and silly trivia (I suppose due to being in quarantine) almost daily.
- With the above said, we text daily. And he likes doing 'whyyy' or 'okayyy' , etc. (Could be because of Covid-19 too)(Could be because of Covid-19 too)
- He invited me to Zoom call recently and the first thing he said was, "Just seeing your face makes me happy". The first 30 minutes were about his business plans, which I've already heard countless times, since he repeats himself often. The next couple of hours was random stuff, with moments of silence, stupid jokes, and me going way past my bedtime (till 2am). I caught him yawning at least 7 times since 1am but I felt like neither of us wanted to end the call. Anyway... moving on.
- He gets my opinion about his business, and takes my word for any matters in my area of expertise without question.
- In regards to his business, I feel like he's trying to get me involved in it as much as possible. He literally merged my plan with his, so that we could work together long term.
For the most part, I feel like he has been hot and cold. And perhaps, he just sees me as a 'business partner' with nothing romantic. Thus, the above could be completely nothing. But I thought there was no harm putting this here to see what other ENFPs think.
Your thoughts are most welcomed!