^ wow. Get out of my head!! xx
Whenever I get bored, I stop thinking about the person, and I think about the relationship.
I ask- am I bored of the person? or are my feelings just too centered on them as an individual, instead of the relationship (the connection)?
I started thinking about this, because although I really desire to get to know people, I've never been good friends with anyone in my life. When you only know someone for a few months; can you really say you know someone? it takes me 4-5 years to get to a stage of trust and being comfortable with someone enough that it feels effortless around them. Only after 4 years, can I really put all the little pieces of this friend and their life together (as i'm not too open myself, I don't really foster an incredibly open relationship of sharing things about oneself, you know?). Even at the 5 year mark I wouldn't say I knew someone.
Boredom for me, results in a lack of truly experiencing another person on a deeper level. I find, that the more I get to know someone, the less disconnected I am, and the more, strangely enough, they grow on me. Doesn't mean their habits don't piss me off, but fuck, given that I'm so detached from everything and everyone, getting to know someone deeply, is my only grace. And in regards to getting to know someone, 'doing things together' is supremely important. I have good friends, i've rarely done anything with, but we've talked a lot about ourselves... but it doesn't feel enough. Doing activities with someone, is where you see another persons many other facets. When I don't bond in this way, I very easily get bored... of the -relationship- (not necessarily) the person.