astroninja
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- Dec 3, 2009
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- INTP
I guess I don't know what people mean when they use the term "soulmate".
Have you ever met a person that nearly completely understood you, that you could relate to on several different levels but at the same time were completely invigorated by?
That might fit the definition... if the interest is mutual and it somehow never fades. Then I suppose I'd believe in it. Will the interest never fade, however? I have no idea.
I once met someone. I've known her for 8 years now.
We've changed throughout the years, immensely.
Moved on to new friendships, new experiences, new lifestyles.
Yet, whenever we meet, and this is once every few years, there remains a spark.
It's almost electric, and sometimes I can't logically understand it, but it's there.
When the other person is upset, though we may be miles away, we each 'feel' it independently from the other, and strive to ask the other if everything is alright. We do this without prior instigation or any form of contact; just a sudden "Is everything alright?" in the space of years. I cannot explain this as well.
I have met many people in my life whom I'm compatible with and whom I have had wonderful relationships with, both romantic and platonic. But nothing comes close to that level of mutual understanding that we share. It is not even a romantic kind of chemistry.
It's one of the things where you just... know. That when you meet this person, no matter the changes in our individual lives, no matter the ongoings of the everyday banality, you will simply maintain that connection.
I have 'felt' this before, and being an INTP, it completely frustrates me to no end. And that is perhaps why such a connection is special to me; I can't understand it, but I have to acknowledge it. I can't see it, touch it, smell it, feel it or taste it, but it is there. And only when you have experienced it once in your life will you 'get' what it feels like to be 'gotten'. I don't believe in an omnipotent God, and am NOT an advocate for unconditional, ridiculously sweetened love. But I do believe that there are things that do exist between two people that would be difficult to intellectually explain, and even more difficult to logically ignore.