The best thing ANYONE (male or female) can do on ANY DATE (first, second, third, etc.) is BE THEMSELVES.
There is always a certain amount of "nervous" or "giddy" energy surrounding a first date, because once is excited at the prospect of finding a new person to love and be loved by.
BUT - in no way shape or form is that prospect served by pretending to be something you are not.
For instance, I might be a full blown ESTP, and a loon, and a bit zany, but those are just brief moments in time where those aspects of my personality are interjected throughout my day to keep things light and fun, instead of drab and boring.
Far beyond being a comedian and a silly fellow, I am a gentleman, I am a romantic, I am an optimist, and I am a big believer that chivalry and courtship still exist although in terms more appropriate for the times we live in than when men draped their cloaks over mud puddles for ladies to walk over.
Guys, regardless of your MBTI type, let me give some advice for a first date with a woman you have a strong interest in:
(1) Bring flowers!
(2) Dress well, but leave the tuxedo at home.
(3) Go easy on the cologne, or skip it, just be clean, and well groomed, no Mafia hair gel.
(4) Get your damn car cleaned, if not detailed beofre the date.
(5) Open the door for her and let her get seated comfortably in your car, once she appears to be comfortable, make eye contact, smile, and close the door for her.
(6) Get in the car, don't blast the fucking stereo. Either keep it off and talk to her, or keep it at a volume low enough that you can converse with her. Focus on her, and not the 1,800 watt sound system.
(7) Wherever you are going, be sure to open the door for her to let her out of the car, and shut it for her.
(8) Open the door for her to wherever you are going (let's say a nice restaurant in this example) and then follow her in.
(9) Hopefully you made reservations, or got there early, if you did not, don't be a fool and sit outside on a metal bench with a pger-coaster that alerts you when your table is ready. Go buy her a drink and/or an appetizer at the bar if she's hungry.
(10) During dinner remember the following: You have TWO EARS and ONE MOUTH, so LISTEN TWICE as much as you SPEAK. Learn about her, don't be a bloody fool and stampede all over the conversation about your whole life. Communication is a TWO WAY endeavor.
(11) If she's cool with it, pay the tab, especially if you asked her out. YOU ASKED, so YOU PAY. If she wants to go Dutch, then don't argue with her, you will lose. ;-)
(12) If you do the above, smile, and be yourself, you will most likely have a very succcessful first date, regardless of your MBTI type.
(13) When it's time to take her home, it's your job to figure out when to kiss her goodnight. If she doesn't want to kiss you, you'll know, but you'll still likely get a hug, unless you creeped her out somewhere during the date. Where it all goes from there is up to you. If you have an interest in a woman, pursue her, but do so like a gentleman, and not like a creep or a stalker.
(14) Remember, even if the whole endeavor fails, you got two very important things out of it: (A) You will have learned a few things, and (B) You'll never have to look back on your life and have regrets "What if I did ask her out that summer?" will not be a question you ponder on alone in a nursing home. Instead, you might be holding the hand of the love of your life on a beach sipping Mai Thai's together on your 80th birthdays. I know which option I'd rather have as part of my life...
MBTI + DATING = FAIL
DATING + ROMANCE = WIN!!!
-Halla