Elfboy
Certified Sausage Smoker
- Joined
- Nov 26, 2008
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 5w4
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
It really doesn't matter which NF he is... I think the fact that he has a good friend who is willing to listen, idea generate, and be there for him is enough for just about anyone.
I think the water skiing idea is fabulous. It will give him a day outdoors enjoying the weather, and a physical activity to help give him a mental break from what he is thinking about.
I don't know if it would help at all... But perhaps even trying to put a positive spin in the fact that he did stand up for a principle. This world so quickly wants us to put physical comfort above anything higher. I know that it's extra tricky with a wife and kids involved, but he should still know he's a great father/role model because he didn't compromise.
I had a summer job after highschool where I was witness to some sexual harassment against a friend of mine. I spoke up and almost got the two men I worked with fired. It was at the company that my dad also worked for, so when my mom found out about what I had done, she got mad at me saying this could reflect badly on my dad. I in turn felt horrible and extra conflicted. I ended up getting threatened by the ex-marine I worked with, and didn't say anything to anyone because I felt like I had done something wrong. So I look back on the episode and think that it would have been nice to have someone agree with me on what I did. I don't know if that helps you at all though.
And lastly, if your friend seemed like an INFJ before this major stress occurred then he probably is an INFJ.
it's about cognitive functions, not what he seems like, and this man is a clear Fi user. his entire dilemma is
- impulsively acting on an urge to carry out justice and be true to his values
- he feels what he did was morally unacceptable because he put his family in jeopardy