Salomé
meh
- Joined
- Sep 25, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
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- 5w4
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- sx/sp
Lol @ wishful thinking. Um, no. I'm no NFP. And I know when someone is trying to dominate me. (INTPs are every bit as resistant to it as you guys are, probably more so). The fact that you felt the need to qualify, tells me you understand the dynamic at least a little bit. And INTJ women are generally much less prone to this behaviour than the men.You are reading into this motivations that are not (always) there; or perhaps it is just some odd sort of wishful thinking. INTJs can be very opinionated, and forthcoming about speaking our minds. We refuse to be dominated, but that does not equate to a desire to dominate others. (That is more ENTJ, but only the stereotype.) Some people do mistakenly view the two attitudes as equivalent.
I think Mia called it:
I would say the INTJ need to control is more toxic than the ENTJ one, because the latter are at least aware of it, whereas the INTJ need is a distortion of their self-preservation instinct, and as such, is less under their conscious control and so emerges in more distinctly crazy ways (at least in my experience). If you aren't aware of it, that's not surprising. I suppose that's what makes these threads so valuable...3. Related to #2, fear of rejection (yeah, I said it) which leads to them being an over-the-top ass in order to retain a sense of control over the situation.
4. Speaking of need to control… yeah, probably don’t even need to expound on that one.
5. I knew one with a preoccupation with revenge that did not serve him well.
“O, wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as others see us!
It wad frae monie a blunder free us,
An' foolish notion.â€