LanaBanana
New member
- Joined
- May 7, 2014
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- XXFJ
- Enneagram
- 1w2
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sp
I spent my time thinking I was an ENTJ but it never hit home to me. I read more and I identifie more with the ENFJ personality a lot more, with one excpetion:
I don't need to have strong intimate relationship with people.
As a kid I always had friends but I never really liked them, because I had trouble finding kids I really connected with. Only two years ago I could really connect with people (one INTJ and two INFJs), and I appriciate my friendships with them a lot. I do want a relationship, but I can handle it without, and it's defintely not my top prioraty. But I think that even if I didn't really had friends I could get along, because I've already done it and it was okay, meaning I can handle it. Maybe it's because I have such strong relationships with my parents and sisters that I don't have the feeling that I'm alone.
But wait, when I was in 8th grade and I felt alone, I spent a lot of my time online and I made many many friends online, friends whom I can connect with. Maybe that was my way to connect?
I don't know. Help?
P.S. I dated a guy (which I didn't really knew before, but he "stalked" me on facebook and after one time of talking he asked me out) for a really short time and at first I felt like I was really into him and that we could be great together and then he started to pressure me with long term planning and expectations from me on the second/third date and from them I became really emotionless and irritable towards him and was very moody. Am I just young and stupid ENFJ or not ENFJ at all?
I don't need to have strong intimate relationship with people.
As a kid I always had friends but I never really liked them, because I had trouble finding kids I really connected with. Only two years ago I could really connect with people (one INTJ and two INFJs), and I appriciate my friendships with them a lot. I do want a relationship, but I can handle it without, and it's defintely not my top prioraty. But I think that even if I didn't really had friends I could get along, because I've already done it and it was okay, meaning I can handle it. Maybe it's because I have such strong relationships with my parents and sisters that I don't have the feeling that I'm alone.
But wait, when I was in 8th grade and I felt alone, I spent a lot of my time online and I made many many friends online, friends whom I can connect with. Maybe that was my way to connect?
I don't know. Help?
P.S. I dated a guy (which I didn't really knew before, but he "stalked" me on facebook and after one time of talking he asked me out) for a really short time and at first I felt like I was really into him and that we could be great together and then he started to pressure me with long term planning and expectations from me on the second/third date and from them I became really emotionless and irritable towards him and was very moody. Am I just young and stupid ENFJ or not ENFJ at all?