I know I'm not attractive to everyone-some people like different types-but thinking about that makes me feel more inferior. Like what's the point of thinking I'm pretty if there is someone else prettier? =/ Like I think I always think it's a joke when I get compliments. And Yes, I would say "okay" or "I know" or nothing at all.
and Lady X- by saying "you look like a normal attractive person" just makes me feel bad about thinking I'm pretty at all- Like saying "you're really not THAT pretty so you need to stop rambling on about it and get a life". I just either feel like the prettiest or the ugliest. But since no one likes me anyway doesn't matter so...
and I say "obviously" b/c I get compliments like everyday...well if I go outside.
wait just looked up christy turlington- I'm prettier or just as pretty at that bitch.
reeeeeeaaallllly? Every day?
Well I it feels like it-At least it feels that way-I'm always on my guard-But since this sounds coneited- I get hit on just like any other girl because you know I'm not that great. There goes my self esteem/confidence. People are so annoying- omg you can;t say this can;t say that- well who cares what I say, right? They're just words.
Lady X mentioned christy turlington- and honestly she isn't some goddess- she looks like the normally attractive people.
And the thing is I don't know how to change this mentality. everyone's tired of it- But when I try to show confidence- it's always said to be coneited- that's why I feel bad saying thank you. This is why I keep telling people I'm a loser- I can't just be normal...If no one's that pretty don't compliment me-everyone is pretty somehow. But that statement just makes me feel worthless- nothing special. Why would anyone talk to me if I;m nothing special?
[MENTION=7991]chana[/MENTION]- I'm not "full of myself"- just depressed and trying to make myself feel better. I'm weird and awkward (a loser) and no one else gets it.
That sounds great and it seems like it's okay for a guy to have that kind of mindset. But when a girl starts talking about wanting to take things slow and needing some distance (like there is no reason for 3 hour conversations every night!) and not needing to constantly reaffirm her feelings, it's wrong and she needs to change.
When I get compliments on my outfits, I get surprised because I don't notice other people's outfits and certainly don't feel the need to compliment them on it so I usually say 'okay' instead of 'thank you,' not realizing that they expect me to give them a similar compliment. It's frustrating because I treat guys the way I would want to be treated and some guys find that intimidating. I guess I can be blunt but if I don't cry over every insensitive thing someone says, they shouldn't complain either. According to a friend of mine (who's a lot like me), we're not there to be their moms, and if they can't take it, they need to get lost. Lol guess I babbled too...
reeeeeeaaallllly? Every day?
EDIT: you just added that bit about christy turlington. That attitude is what comes across as self centered and obnoxious. It's not going to attract people.
With black guys, yeah I can believe that everyday part, but she doing the INTP whining.
I've experienced that black men can be more expressive when it comes to this sort of thing but I still don't believe that she encounters cat calling everyday or has people banging on her windows.
Thanks.
And to have your self concept defined by that seems very non intp of you"- I'm not sure what this means.
You're pretty illogical for an INTP.I know I'm not attractive to everyone-some people like different types-but thinking about that makes me feel more inferior. Like what's the point of thinking I'm pretty if there is someone else prettier? =/ Like I think I always think it's a joke when I get compliments. And Yes, I would say "okay" or "I know" or nothing at all.
and Lady X- by saying "you look like a normal attractive person" just makes me feel bad about thinking I'm pretty at all- Like saying "you're really not THAT pretty so you need to stop rambling on about it and get a life". I just either feel like the prettiest or the ugliest. But since no one likes me anyway doesn't matter so...
Tough love, honey.Why does it seem like most everyone except Tallulah is being a whiny jerk in this thread?