Is it inherent in INTJs to enjoy messing with people?
One of the INTJs messes with everyone to the degree that it's threatening to taint my opinion of INTJs permanently. I know it shouldn't, and of all people I know that I should avoid type bias... but it just drives me up the wall.
Here's an example from a recent discussion with her:
Me: Point A.
Her: Point B.
Me: Acknowledgment of Point B, then countered by other information that would lead you to consider Point A.
Her: Point B. (completely unchanged and not acknowledging anything I just said, as if I had said nothing)
Me: (slightly flustered) Another angle at the flaws of Point B, and how it leads to Point A.
Her: Point B. (not any more insistent; totally nonchalant, as if she's talking to herself and I'm not there??)
(repeat x3 or 4)
Me: Why are you ignoring me??
Her: I'm not! Why are you taking this so personally?!?
Me: Because you didn't acknowledge anything that I was saying!
Her: I thought it was implied! It was just a discussion.
Me: But it wasn't. It was me trying to discuss, and you not helping. How did you expect me to continue the discussion, if you just remained in one place and said the same thing over again?
Her: (laughs) Well... I wanted to see how you'd react?
I know this isn't the biggest deal in the world, but it's part of a bigger trend with her. This plus a recent interaction with an INTJ on the forum, where the INTJ described their style of interacting with people and it sounded pretty similar -- i.e. toying with people for fun to see how they react.
But there are obviously nice INTJs! I have INTJ acquaintances that I really like! But I don't want to think that all INTJs go through life toying with people for fun. I consider that beyond a turn-off, so I really hope that all INTJs aren't like that?