[MENTION=17495]CapLawyer[/MENTION]
Do you know the types of anyone you've been in a relationship with?
Haven't really thought about typing those people. I think if I had to type them, I would type them as ISFJ, INTP, ENFP and ESFP.
What type of person do you get along best with?
I tend to like all types of people, but I do notice that I have more difficulty getting along with conservative people and people who are very much into spirituality. Then it also depends on what kind of relationship we have. I might be getting along with control freaks in my daily life, but I can't stand working for them. I guess that goes for many types of people: great to get along with in private, but terrible work partners and vice versa. I also can't stand people who are secretive, because I always want to know everything about everybody.
Do you fall in love easily?
I don't fall in love very often, but when I do, it goes really fast. I can be completely uninterested one moment, then something inside me gets triggered and before I know it I'm totally infatuated. I think in the past nine years I probably spent less than a year in total not being in love and I think the majority of that time was spent being lovesick. Once I'm actually over someone, you can count on it that I will fall for someone else within a month. I don't know if that means I'm easy when it comes to falling in love.
What is love like for you?
Wanting to be there for someone, taking care of them no matter what and missing them when they're gone.
ESFPs aren't commonly online. What brought you online, and what keeps your here?
The exact story of how I came here is quite long. So I'm a psychology student and a few months ago I had this bullshit class. In that class we had to sit down in a circle for six hours, five weeks in a row, talking about our problems. Now I happen to be one of the few people I know who doesn't have many problems and if I do have them, I like to solve these problems instead of talking about them endlessly (or if they're unsolvable, just get over it, because why dwell over something that I can't change?). Meanwhile my teacher insisted that I must have problems that I should talk about, so he tried to search a problem behind everything I said. This was quite depressing and I always ended up having a bad mood after these classes. After the last class, we had to write an essay about our experience and I wrote about how depressing it was to me and how much it affected my mood. The next week I received a response from our teacher and he then accused me of having no self knowledge. So ever since I'm trying to get to know myself better and to make sure that my teacher is wrong about me having no self knowledge. Then I came across MBTI.
What keeps me here is professional interests on one hand. MBTI didn't even get mentioned in any of my courses and when apparently it's been kind of ridiculed by 'serious' psychologists and scientists, but yet this (pseudo-)psychological subject seemed to appeal so many 'normal' people. I thought it might be useful to get to know more about it and see what draws people to it. I know it might be against the stereotype of the ESFP, but one day I'd like to be one of the best psychologists on the market and I think there's a possibility that this could help me a bit with that.
On the other hand, it's summer, everybody's gone or working on their thesis in the library, it's too hot outside to do anything and I'm actually kind of bored.
Are you a big facebook/social media user?
YES. Big time. And I HATE it when people remind me of that when I want about something I did or what I've been through and they cut of my story with "Oh yeah. I know. I saw it. On Facebook.". That's just so rude.
Do you prefer to have a wide circle of friends or a small one?
Wide, definitely. I notice that when I just hang out with one small group of people all the time, I just get annoyed with them at one point and then I need to find other people to hang out with. So it's more like I have many different circles of friend, sometimes with some overlap. I guess that makes most of my friendships kind of shallow compared to other people's friendships, but it's just what suits me best.
How closely does the ESFP description fit your personality?
I couldn't find many things in the ESFP descriptions I read that didn't fit me. If I had to name them, it would be that I'm not good at sports, I don't have difficulty working alone (probably has to do with my upbringing) and I do have long-term goals (I just always seem to forget them somewhere along the road).
How did you decide that you were an ESFp?
I did multiple tests and they all said the same, except for one that said I was an ESTP.
Do you like getting into the theories while studying psychology, or are you usually attracted to something else?
Well, most of the time I'm busy doing things and living the moment. I don't mind if I have to get into the theories if I think they have some practical use, but once it gets too theoretical I'm definitely having a hard time with it. I also hate it when I have to get into theories that don't seem useful to me (like philosophy). But I think up to this point I've spent more time doing things on the side (like internships, organizing activities, gathering sponsors for activities, making sure our paper runs properly) than actually studying, unlike most students.
What drew you to that major?
Let's say I got in trouble a lot when I was in high school, up to the point where I was sent to various psychologists because of my behavior. I also got diagnosed with ADHD. But I saw what a mess most of these psychologists made of their work and I was like: 'I can do this way better'. So I chose this major and hopefully one day I can prove that I can actually can do this way better. I just want to be the best. Sometimes I watch documentaries about people with mysterious diseases and whenever someone with a strange mental illness comes on, I try to guess what's wrong with that person. Every time they reveal that I had the right diagnosis in mind, it just gives me such a kick. A few days ago I diagnosed a little girl with a rare chromosome deletion, who apparently didn't get any help for months by anybody. It must have looked so odd when I was almost cheering when the people on TV named the exact chromosome deletion I had in mind. What made me even more proud, was that this chromosome deletion wasn't discussed in any of my classes. Geeky, I know, but I just want to be the best.
Do you enjoy going to school, or is it just something you have to do?
I'm not going to lie, actually going to school is something I have to do. However, like I said, I still want to be one of the best psychologists the market has to offer. I know from my own experience with psychologists (and looking at my fellow students, who often can't even spell) that there are many fuckers out there in the business who can't even distinguish brains from a packet of goat cheese, but I'd still like to do my best. Therefore, school is essential, but so is broadening my world. But enjoyment is a big word.