Thalassa
Permabanned
- Joined
- May 3, 2009
- Messages
- 25,183
- MBTI Type
- ISFP
- Enneagram
- 6w7
- Instinctual Variant
- sx
Yes. This.
Heavy Fi users can come across very selfishly at times. They've reached their conclusion based on an internal values system, and don't really care how that conclusion will affect others. They feel like in order to be "true to themselves," they have no choice but insist upon x, and if you don't respect their wishes without question, you're some sort of oppressor.
Heavy Fe also comes across as selfish.
I actually have fairly well developed Fe, and so I understand it. I was raised in the South as a female, which is practically the Fe-dom capital of the United States. Fe can and does make life more pleasant. I missed an Fe dom atmosphere when I moved to a bigger city and was surrounded by a more T mentality.
I even go to church - albeit a liberal church - and believe in participating in activities which directly serve others. Is this not Fe behavior?
However, Fe has it's dark side like every other cognitive function. I seriously think that's all that's being argued here: it isn't all giving and sharing and hugs. Sometimes it's intrusive and judgemental and leech-y.
Sure, Fi can be selfish. But don't forget that Fe users are sometimes so focused on what they think is so right for the group, or so socially acceptable, that they end up hurting individuals. Or they can wander off into codependency land, which is in reality (no matter how it may appear on the shallow surface) just as selfish as having a stubborn attachment to inner core values despite the wishes of others.