Most of my impression of Angelina Jolie come from her early celebrity days when she did that public, sexual kiss with her brother, and other stunts like wearing vasks of blood, and mostly doing a lot of shock for attention. She had an image consistent with histrionic personality disorder and other unstable, dramatic issues, so I didn't develop an initial sense she should be trusted with vulnerable or delicate matters.
I don't know the character of either and if Brad did "choke" one of the kids on the plane, that is serious. I'm not sure what spilling wine on everyone means, but some accusations would be serious. There does need to be evidence, and right now that's unclear to me.
I have expressed frustration about adopting children and then subjecting them through years of custody and divorce turmoil. I read about their children and three are Brad and Angelina's biological children and the other three were in orphanages overseas. One adopted at seven months, but another was in the orphanage for three years.
This is the most psychologically complex family I have ever encountered and the conception of it, grandiose. The first complexity is having biological and adopted children in the same family. It is tempting for people to treat the biological children with preference, feeling more sense of self within them. It takes character, awareness, sensitivity and discipline of oneself to be genuinely fair in that context. Secondly, the children that were in orphanages will need special emotional supports. Even if they were not traumatized to the point of cluster B personality issues, still, there will be some emotional complexity to feel loved, safe, and stable in the world when a secure, constant, loving caretaker could not be present Thirdly, they are in the spotlight as celebrities, but also in this extremely complex divorce with adults acting at times childishly and unstable. The environment is emotionally unstable and highly complex. It's not okay for Brad or Angelina to indulge ego or childish impulses when they are caretakers for such an emotionally complex group of developing people. The situation is presented with big smiles always, but it is unsettling to me.
I hope everyone come out with some stability and peace.