Samvega
Buddhist Misanthrope
- Joined
- Dec 11, 2007
- Messages
- 1,073
- MBTI Type
- ENTP
- Enneagram
- 7w8
Somebody has to be the finance company. Meaning, if a person wants to buy a car they can't afford i.e. they're willing to make a bad decision, get in too deep or put themselves in a bad spot it's the finance company that will step up and say no. Now of course they're looking after their own best interests but both parties come out better off even if one doesn't always see it that way.
I tend to often times be the finance company in life and with such high Ti and low Fe that's fine with me. I know how this may not be as easy for a xF however I think it's something you need to do if he's not getting the hint. Meaning, if a girl kept being persistent with me about liking me or wanting to date and I wasn't feeling it I would cut off the friendship to spare their feelings. I have done this more than once as a tend to be a flirt and it would be hard to be friends with me if you liked me as I would seemingly send many signals that would be confusing.
As for the three year thing. I tend to have a HUGE friend zone and toss people there freely, often and normally VERY quickly. This is like the huge sand trap you can't get out of. If somebody wasn't alright being there I would stop talking to them within a couple weeks. That is if they still wanted me after I was open about all my flaws because that would just make me think they were honestly insane stalkers!
I tend to often times be the finance company in life and with such high Ti and low Fe that's fine with me. I know how this may not be as easy for a xF however I think it's something you need to do if he's not getting the hint. Meaning, if a girl kept being persistent with me about liking me or wanting to date and I wasn't feeling it I would cut off the friendship to spare their feelings. I have done this more than once as a tend to be a flirt and it would be hard to be friends with me if you liked me as I would seemingly send many signals that would be confusing.
As for the three year thing. I tend to have a HUGE friend zone and toss people there freely, often and normally VERY quickly. This is like the huge sand trap you can't get out of. If somebody wasn't alright being there I would stop talking to them within a couple weeks. That is if they still wanted me after I was open about all my flaws because that would just make me think they were honestly insane stalkers!