I also think there is a serious issue with rape allegations. It is an extremely difficult topic because once a sexual assault allegation is made, any incorrect response is a serious moral violation. If the person was attacked and not believed, that is a serious moral violation of that person. Also, if the person was not attacked or is now conflating the incident and not owning up to their choice in it, and the accused is damaged, that is also a serious moral offense.
There are many types of sexual experiences and ways people can feel shame and violation. Some of these occur as rape in which the consent of one person is clearly violated and there is no point in the process in which the person desired what was happening. There are also choices made by feeling pressured in one way or another, so that consent is made, but compromised in some manner. That is complex, but also a different premise from the clear violation of consent. There are also times people choose sexual behaviors that later cause them shame and regret, but they did consent at the time.
My concern is that there can be times in every person's life where they make a sexual choice that they later regret because it makes them feel shame, confusion, etc. It is still possible to have consented at the time, and then bait and switch with a rape allegation to justify the indiscretion. I think it is important for women and men to maintain self honesty about choices that they did make. This provides much more empowerment than to reframe past indiscretions as being the fault of the other party. If people own up to the degree their choice and consent was made, then that means they have the power to make a different choice in the future. If it is framed as being helpless and victimized, even when both parties participated, then I think that is more damaging to the person with regrets. My main concern is when someone does not say 'no', they do not push the person away, but they do participate to a degree that it is reasonable for the other party to see it as consent, then it isn't right to go back and reframe it as rape out of personal regret of choice.
To be clear, the above grey area discussion is complex and not intended to replace the issue of clear consent violation and rape. This may cause intense responses, so please read it twice. I think this is a huge issue in male advocacy and gender power imbalances.
Edit: I was to be explicitly clear I'm not talking about violation of minors, but I'm talking about adults making decisions they later regret and so forth.