Hi all! I kinda have typology on the brain atm so I was wondering if an issue in my life is type related, particularly INFJ related.
Im fundamentally interested in human connection, so my manner with people is attentive, interested, accommodating. I ask questions, Im nice, Im supportive. I do this naturally. As a result, people can get into a mode where they talk at me. Its almost like they get into a trance and forget Im there. They want to impose themselves on me.
I never much cared when I was younger but as Ive matured and developed as an adult, Ive become more assertive, less passive in conversations, more concerned with respect and boundaries. I have less desire to just be a sounding board anymore. If someone talks at me now in a one-sided way, I find it disrespectful. Consequently Ive noticed that a number of people Ive known a while, friends and family, get frustrated and annoyed with me. They dont like me asserting myself with them, stating my opinion and desires.
Do any other INFJs (or any type) have this problem, or have gone thru this? Is this more of a specifically male INFJ problem: a desire for respect and dominance conflicting with a natural inclination towards attentiveness and connection? Im curious what y'all think...
Im fundamentally interested in human connection, so my manner with people is attentive, interested, accommodating. I ask questions, Im nice, Im supportive. I do this naturally. As a result, people can get into a mode where they talk at me. Its almost like they get into a trance and forget Im there. They want to impose themselves on me.
I never much cared when I was younger but as Ive matured and developed as an adult, Ive become more assertive, less passive in conversations, more concerned with respect and boundaries. I have less desire to just be a sounding board anymore. If someone talks at me now in a one-sided way, I find it disrespectful. Consequently Ive noticed that a number of people Ive known a while, friends and family, get frustrated and annoyed with me. They dont like me asserting myself with them, stating my opinion and desires.
Do any other INFJs (or any type) have this problem, or have gone thru this? Is this more of a specifically male INFJ problem: a desire for respect and dominance conflicting with a natural inclination towards attentiveness and connection? Im curious what y'all think...