I might be eccentric but I don't think deserve has anything to do with it, and I think it's less human to distance ourselves from one another by retreating from well mannered curtesy and civility.Anyone who believes that they deserve a sincere remark of any kind from a cashier who is probably making minimum wage to put up with their insufferable ass is repulsive. They are only truly interested in dehumanizing that individual for their own sake and need to get hit by a bus. Yes, problem. How dare you fucking speak to me.
I say both depending on circumstance and context. If I give a gift or invite someone over to my house and they thank me, I say "you're welcome" because they're welcome to the gift and my house. If I hold a door for someone and they say thank you, I say "no problem" or "of course." And if someone's thank you is doubling as an apology, which happens sometimes even though I can't think of a specific example right now, I say "oh, no, it's fine."
Ah, but well mannered courtesy can be an excellent tool to help distance ourselves from others.I might be eccentric but I don't think deserve has anything to do with it, and I think it's less human to distance ourselves from one another by retreating from well mannered curtesy and civility.
Ah, but well mannered courtesy can be an excellent tool to help distance ourselves from others.
I might be eccentric but I don't think deserve has anything to do with it, and I think it's less human to distance ourselves from one another by retreating from well mannered curtesy and civility.
a person who is pressured to be less than authentic is a person who is pressured not to fully exist
Demanding the performance is dehumanizing, as we know full well that what is expressed is likely inauthentic. The cashier is not a monkey dancing for one's amusement, yet nonetheless an act is expected purely for the customer's sake; it comes at the expense of the authenticity, that some semblance of a just world be validated for every delusional prick who goes through the cashier's line. "Customer service" extorts basic humanity - a person who is pressured to be less than authentic is a person who is pressured not to fully exist.
This is to say nothing of the idea ultimately held over employees:
"Thank the man for buying his $4 cigarettes or your kids go hungry."
This is civility?
Ive noticed millennials will try to class up their "no problem" by upgrading it to a deliberately punctuated "not a problem." Marginally better thanks to the additional effort, but it still falls flat to my ears. Like, I know it wasn't a problem. It was as easy as handing me a pen and I watched you do it. Is pointing out the obvious all you've got? Do you not care either way in helping someone or being appreciated for it?