frustratedcow
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Please tell me what I have to do in this situation because I have been thinking about it a lot.
I'm an INFP and I had a friend who's an ESFP. We were childhood friends and I'd say that he's one of the best friends I ever had. I was one of those people who were drawn in to the charisma ESPFs have. I liked how adventurous and humorous he is. To an INFP like me, he's like the force that made me go out there and live because I was infected with their positive energy that always seemed to thirst for adventure and fun.
But then we had a dumb fight.
Things suddenly went to rock bottom ever since that fight. Because I am an INFP and I hold my principles dear to me, it hurt me when he violated one of them. I stormed off and waited for him to approach me and say sorry. I have already been waiting for almost 4-6 years for that apology and it still hasn't come. In other words, we didn't talk after that fight. It was sad to see one of the people who have been such a positive light in my life drift away from me without even feeling sorry or doing something about it. I really hate that with being an INFP: being loyal until the end. But I guess I'm just holding onto every last fiber of hope even though it's false hope.
The reason why I'm still hoping for that apology (even though I know that ESFPs are good at dropping bad relationships fast) is because I actually like the guy. To make things even worse: we still see each other and every time we do, it's VERY awkward. Our parents are close friends so it's really uncomfortable every time we had to see each other again. I really have a hard time forgetting our memories and moving on because the feeling is still here even if he violated one of my principles and didn't bother apologizing for it.
I want to be friends with him again but I'm afraid that (because he is an ESFP) he doesn't even care that we aren't talking anymore.
This is my question: Would ESFPs apologize to people earlier in this situation if they still want to be friends with me or do they really just avoid confrontation? I heard they are the love em or leave em type so maybe they just don't really care because they can be friends with anyone they like.
I'm an INFP and I had a friend who's an ESFP. We were childhood friends and I'd say that he's one of the best friends I ever had. I was one of those people who were drawn in to the charisma ESPFs have. I liked how adventurous and humorous he is. To an INFP like me, he's like the force that made me go out there and live because I was infected with their positive energy that always seemed to thirst for adventure and fun.
But then we had a dumb fight.
Things suddenly went to rock bottom ever since that fight. Because I am an INFP and I hold my principles dear to me, it hurt me when he violated one of them. I stormed off and waited for him to approach me and say sorry. I have already been waiting for almost 4-6 years for that apology and it still hasn't come. In other words, we didn't talk after that fight. It was sad to see one of the people who have been such a positive light in my life drift away from me without even feeling sorry or doing something about it. I really hate that with being an INFP: being loyal until the end. But I guess I'm just holding onto every last fiber of hope even though it's false hope.
The reason why I'm still hoping for that apology (even though I know that ESFPs are good at dropping bad relationships fast) is because I actually like the guy. To make things even worse: we still see each other and every time we do, it's VERY awkward. Our parents are close friends so it's really uncomfortable every time we had to see each other again. I really have a hard time forgetting our memories and moving on because the feeling is still here even if he violated one of my principles and didn't bother apologizing for it.
I want to be friends with him again but I'm afraid that (because he is an ESFP) he doesn't even care that we aren't talking anymore.
This is my question: Would ESFPs apologize to people earlier in this situation if they still want to be friends with me or do they really just avoid confrontation? I heard they are the love em or leave em type so maybe they just don't really care because they can be friends with anyone they like.
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