thoughtlost
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I think that there are people who get deep slower and people who get deep quicker.
Those that get deep quickly with others are those that purely like the exchange of thoughts/feelings/ideas/knowledge concepts. They connect with anyone who is willing to talk to them about ...whatever is interesting to them. Usually it's philosophical/sociological type stuff, but it can be more concrete too. Essentially, it's not the person that they feel "connected" to ...it's just the type of conversation/interaction that they are having together that they enjoy. It's about who they can have those conversations/interactions with?
Those that get deep slower with other people can also talk about anything. But 'depth' is not so easily translated in the same way as described above. They can go up to a random person and talk about something as personal as their sex-life or their tough family life... but still don't feel like they have made a deep, meaningful connection with that person. So it's not exactly the conversation they are having that they treasure... but something more intangible.
This is the two ways that I think people experience deepness.
Which pattern do you fall into?
If there are other ways to be "deep" with someone or want to expand/edit on what I've written, please do!!
I tagged a few people (didn't tag everyone I've wanted to ...cause i forget how to spell their names and I am lazy). Those of you who have been tagged don't feel obligated to respond. Anyone should feel free to respond, though.
Double edit: I made a poll... because it deserves one for all to have easy/broad access to how people experience deepness. Still appreciate it if you commented as that gives depth to the polls lol.
EDIT:: I was made aware that the choices were throwing people off by [MENTION=31348]RareBird[/MENTION]. Replace nonselective with conversation-based "deepness" and selective with emotional "deepness". Still do not know if these are better terms, but comment below to let me know how you understand it because people aren't getting my intended meaning.
Those that get deep quickly with others are those that purely like the exchange of thoughts/feelings/ideas/knowledge concepts. They connect with anyone who is willing to talk to them about ...whatever is interesting to them. Usually it's philosophical/sociological type stuff, but it can be more concrete too. Essentially, it's not the person that they feel "connected" to ...it's just the type of conversation/interaction that they are having together that they enjoy. It's about who they can have those conversations/interactions with?
Those that get deep slower with other people can also talk about anything. But 'depth' is not so easily translated in the same way as described above. They can go up to a random person and talk about something as personal as their sex-life or their tough family life... but still don't feel like they have made a deep, meaningful connection with that person. So it's not exactly the conversation they are having that they treasure... but something more intangible.
This is the two ways that I think people experience deepness.
Which pattern do you fall into?
If there are other ways to be "deep" with someone or want to expand/edit on what I've written, please do!!
I tagged a few people (didn't tag everyone I've wanted to ...cause i forget how to spell their names and I am lazy). Those of you who have been tagged don't feel obligated to respond. Anyone should feel free to respond, though.
Double edit: I made a poll... because it deserves one for all to have easy/broad access to how people experience deepness. Still appreciate it if you commented as that gives depth to the polls lol.
EDIT:: I was made aware that the choices were throwing people off by [MENTION=31348]RareBird[/MENTION]. Replace nonselective with conversation-based "deepness" and selective with emotional "deepness". Still do not know if these are better terms, but comment below to let me know how you understand it because people aren't getting my intended meaning.
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