lithasblot
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- May 18, 2010
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- ENFP
Hello!
My S.O. of 7 mos. and I got into a disagreement almost a week ago. I didn't agree with her explanation of something and said that her theory seemed illogical.
I realize now this was a huge mistake-- she was seeking something other than me correcting her thinking, that's for sure. I can see that now! I needed to be empathetic rather than argumentative.
Anyway, she's been giving me the silent treatment (no replies to texts, emails, phone calls) for six days now and this is really painful for me because we were in daily contact.
I left her alone for a day, then I sent her a brief text apology. Then I texted once per day (innocuous "hope you're doing okay" texts) for about 3 days and called once to see how she was doing (it went unanswered, I left a voicemail). I have now left her completely alone for two days.
She has withdrawn before, but never for this long. Usually for a day and most of the time she gives me a heads up, like, "I need some time." But I'm getting nothing this time. Stone. Wall.
Help! What course of action would you recommend?
Continue to leave her alone completely?
Continue to show care by sending 1 text or making 1 call per day?
Break up with her?
Send longer apology letter (I wrote it today but have not sent it)?
She's in her late 20s, INFP. I'm an ENFP/J. Most of the time, though the T does show up strong in me (unfortunately, in this situation, it did).
Thanks!
My S.O. of 7 mos. and I got into a disagreement almost a week ago. I didn't agree with her explanation of something and said that her theory seemed illogical.
I realize now this was a huge mistake-- she was seeking something other than me correcting her thinking, that's for sure. I can see that now! I needed to be empathetic rather than argumentative.
Anyway, she's been giving me the silent treatment (no replies to texts, emails, phone calls) for six days now and this is really painful for me because we were in daily contact.
I left her alone for a day, then I sent her a brief text apology. Then I texted once per day (innocuous "hope you're doing okay" texts) for about 3 days and called once to see how she was doing (it went unanswered, I left a voicemail). I have now left her completely alone for two days.
She has withdrawn before, but never for this long. Usually for a day and most of the time she gives me a heads up, like, "I need some time." But I'm getting nothing this time. Stone. Wall.
Help! What course of action would you recommend?
Continue to leave her alone completely?
Continue to show care by sending 1 text or making 1 call per day?
Break up with her?
Send longer apology letter (I wrote it today but have not sent it)?
She's in her late 20s, INFP. I'm an ENFP/J. Most of the time, though the T does show up strong in me (unfortunately, in this situation, it did).
Thanks!