Ok, I’ll give this a try…
-Confident but not arrogant
-Not insecure - or as secure as possible - not using other people as an ego boost or extension of his ego. Definitely not threatened by my areas of interest or expertise he's less knowledgeable about - more intrigued. I would want to feel the same way about him!
-Humble – not afraid to say sorry, etc
-Friendly with everyone, but cutting it off well before flirtatiousness with the opposite sex
-Similar beliefs and values, including conservative approach to morality
-Very masculine but not macho
-Fun-loving but not frivolous. Would draw me into adventures, but would always check to make sure I’m “safe†– ie. feeling secure emotionally or physically.
-A little bit edgy, but honestly, in a fairly surface way - ie. liking motorbikes or punk rock. Not being cruel or harsh or unpredictable. I suppose I'm going for something like "tough on the outside but gooey inside."
-Outgoing, probably a bit more outgoing than me (although I’m not that withdrawn usually – but I’m thinking along the lines of while I’m a fairly extroverted introvert, he would be a somewhat introverted extrovert. Or at least another extroverted introvert!)
-Playful sense of humour, but not based on making fun of others
-Enjoys in-depth conversation
-Interests – at least some interest in the arts, literature etc. But really, I am drawn to people who have some sort of passion even if it’s not something I’m really into. I think my “ideal guy†would share some similar interests with me but would also have other passions more dissimilar to my own. (Passions, not obsessions, btw.) I think it’s most important with interests to respect what the other person is into and take a bit of interest because you want to please them and get to know them better.
-Conscientious about practical matters, but not anal
Careful with money but not miserly or stingy.
-Protective of me, but not controlling
-Not dismissive of my feelings – at least willing to listen and try to understand
-Emotional, but less emotional/sensitive than I am… ie. “in touch with feelingsâ€, but not in the way that he’s only interested in his own.