So...what's stopping everyone from turning small talk into banter?
So...what's stopping everyone from turning small talk into banter?
Banter is a sort of back and forth "challenging" of wits, battle of wits or being intelligently funny.
Lots of da pplz dont likez da banter. Dey alwayz turnz it back into da small talkz. I kan only banter about da weather for so long. When I banter, they're eyez glaze over. It's either small talk or nuthin. True story.
.I'm still working on it
I think this entire forum should be limited only to small talk. See if the activity of the site dwindles a bit.
I think this entire forum should be limited only to small talk. See if the activity of the site dwindles a bit.
Reaching a desired goal is the usual motivation when I willingly engage in smalltalk. I still feel almost sleazy inside doing it, but all for a good cause. And yes, groups of women can be the worst for expecting smalltalk, though guys can have their moments as well, sometimes on different topics.Most of my INTJ friends have the same problem that you have here. A couple will "indulge" in small talk for awhile... but it is always as a means to an end in achieving some mysterious goal/project they are working on. Ie, I need to get this person on board with what I want to accomplish... and if that means I have to sit for 5 minutes and talk about the weather then so be it... So long as the actual SRS BSNS project gets started promptly afterwards.
And for the record... most of "small talk" is kinda dumb. I can be pretty good at it since it's just a part of my job working with lots of women... but I am not particularly fond of it.
I think this entire forum should be limited only to small talk. See if the activity of the site dwindles a bit.