OrangeAppled
Sugar Hiccup
- Joined
- Mar 20, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 4w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
Actually, any input from extroverts may help...
So I've been friends with this ESFP for a few months now, and we spent the a weekend together recently when he was in SoCal. He recently told me he was interested in me as more than a friend and blah blah blah & so now we're dating.
The thing is, now that he has gone back to his state, he calls me nearly everyday and wants to talk for like THREE HOURS at a time. He's one of those people who will talk to you while they do other stuff - like they just want to keep you on the phone all the time, as if you were right there with them.
That's sweet on the one hand, and of course I enjoy talking to him (and I realize with this being long-distance for the time being, I'll probably have to make better friends with my phone...), and I really appreciate how straight-forward he has been with his interest in me (no stupid games), and I also really like that he takes the initiative to call me (as I'm bad about that)...BUT, I am also an expressed introvert, and I find it very exhausting.
I want to talk to him, but I almost fear how long the conversation will be. After like 2 hours or so, I interject with a reason to end the call because I find my brain just glazing over - but he always sounds disappointed. I HATE always being the one to end the call. It seems like it may never end if I don't though....like he NEVER starts winding down.
I'm on the phone right now & I don't know how to get off
So I've been friends with this ESFP for a few months now, and we spent the a weekend together recently when he was in SoCal. He recently told me he was interested in me as more than a friend and blah blah blah & so now we're dating.
The thing is, now that he has gone back to his state, he calls me nearly everyday and wants to talk for like THREE HOURS at a time. He's one of those people who will talk to you while they do other stuff - like they just want to keep you on the phone all the time, as if you were right there with them.
That's sweet on the one hand, and of course I enjoy talking to him (and I realize with this being long-distance for the time being, I'll probably have to make better friends with my phone...), and I really appreciate how straight-forward he has been with his interest in me (no stupid games), and I also really like that he takes the initiative to call me (as I'm bad about that)...BUT, I am also an expressed introvert, and I find it very exhausting.
I want to talk to him, but I almost fear how long the conversation will be. After like 2 hours or so, I interject with a reason to end the call because I find my brain just glazing over - but he always sounds disappointed. I HATE always being the one to end the call. It seems like it may never end if I don't though....like he NEVER starts winding down.
I'm on the phone right now & I don't know how to get off