I am quite frankly biased in favor of not being close emotionally to ISFP's as I have stated before, but I have a friend who has a 19 yr. old son, who is profoundly upset at him right now.
Can you possibly assist in understanding what is happening?
The scenario is this...son has lived with him for past 10 years, since parents divorced. He did the best he could with him and treated him very well and took care of him physically very well. (From my viewpoint, the only thing I think he did, that was not in his son's best interest, is that he did too much for him and is now paying dearly for it.)
About 1 year ago the son started changing on him and didn't seem to be too interested in school or anything else. He has always been a loner, no real friends and generally likes weightlifting, boxing and animals, as would be expected. He does not do well at school. Son has never been a tidy person but he just threw things like banana peels and food on the floor and wouldn't even pick them up. He wanted to keep his pets, but wouldn't clean up after them and just allowed his birds to fly all over the house, along with the assoc. mess they caused. He would then lie to his father about doing this. He also had some strange habit of covering the house's motion detector alarms with tissue paper, saying that there was some kind of radiation emanating from them. (don't even ask me about that notion...just too strange to me). He also would unplug the garage door opener all the time. (No clue what he was tryign to "say" by doing this)
Anyway, it came to a head recently and finally sent his son packing to his mom's house about an hour away. Dad is very distraught. He has tried talking to his son and all he gets is a "yeah" or "no"...very familiar patterns to what I have had to deal with at times from certain others. I mentioned MBTI and told him that his son was almost certainly an ISFP. I further explained the tendencies of this type. It helped him somewhat but now he is so frustrated about what his son is doing and his disrespectful attitude and unwillingness to say anythign about his behavior, that we are both in a quandry.
I don't wish to say anything else to dad, bec. I know I have a bias about this type due to my own history with them. With that being said, can you guys begin to speculate on what is going on? i gotta tell you, I feel for the dad in the situation. He is a good man and doesn't deserve what is happening, but I have no clue as to why this seems to happen so much. He needs some meaningful communication with his son, but I don't think he will get it.
If any of you would like to put your 2 cents in here, please do so.
P. S. I didn't put too much in here, but his son has really acted very strangely compared to what he used to do. Dad is fed up and is either emotional or angry(man, can I identify with that). I have an additional personal question for you ISFP. IF someone who cares about you asks a simple question and asks for some feedback, why or what holds you back from saying it? I know you can bec. I have seen it done, but when you have to BEG for an answer and you still won't reply, the pain just intensifies for some of us.:confused::confused: